Decoding The Secrets of The Taurus Man
I’d like to take a moment before we get started to tell you why it was I began my journey. You may not believe this, but, at first, I was extremely skeptical of astrology. It’s true!
When I was young, I found myself in a relationship with a Taurus man. You know, it’s funny, because he was everything people say they are: tenacious, hardworking, and oh so sensual. I later found that tenacity could also be incredible stubbornness, that hardworking nature also had a lazier side, and well, his sensuality ran hot and cold. I know you’re nodding right now! These men are perplexing! It was just like he had two sides, which... being a Gemini, you’d think I could handle. I was wrong. I was also wrong in thinking he had two sides.
On a college break, my mother decided that I should vacation in Romania. My family immigrated there to Boston when she was just a little girl. She felt it would be a good idea for me to get in touch with my heritage and meet some of my family there. At first, I was hesitant to go, because I didn’t want to leave my boyfriend behind and I had a project I was working on for my theology course with a study buddy. I went back to college, we got high praise for the project, and finished out the term. Then, something happened that changed everything.
After months of what seemed like the most perfect relationship, my Taurus boyfriend just stopped talking to me. The last few weeks were strange, every time I would talk about the project I was working on, he’d grow silent and sullen. I reassured him constantly that my study partner was just that, but, I could tell he was jealous. He didn’t lash out or anything, like boyfriends in the past, he just grew very cold and distant. Then, finally, he ended things. On the phone! He called me and told me that he just didn’t think things were working out, and that was that. So, I told my mother I’d be happy to go to Romania, if the offer was still open. Turns out, she was right, a change of pace would do me so much good- and, it would change my life!
On the plane, I went over what had happened in my mind so many times. I wanted to be over him, but, something just stuck with me. I knew that getting over breakups take time, but at this point, it had been a few months. I thought that at least by now I would stop crying when I’d think about it, but there I was, trying not to let people see me upset on the plane.
After a handful of layovers and a long trip, I finally landed in Romania. I first arrived by way of Otopeni, which is just slightly north of Bucharest. I had no idea how many stops this trip would take! But this was not the only big surprise I was in store for. From there, I took a train, then a bus and finally, arrived in Vernesti, where my aunt was waiting to pick me up. From there, we travelled to Soresti, where she lived. It’s a short drive, only about a half an hour. Even as I enjoyed the scenery along the way, she could tell I was troubled. She asked me what was wrong, and I told her about my relationship, how it had ended. She nodded, and smiled.
“What sign is he?”
When I told her that he was a Taurus, she laughed. I couldn’t believe it, here I had poured out my soul about this breakup, and she’s cracking up at me. I must have looked puzzled because, she started to tell me details about him that I hadn’t even told her! It was like she’d been there all along. I didn’t know it then, because I had not seen my aunt since I was a little girl, but astrology is actually very big in Romania. Once we got to her house, after settling in, I’d flipped on the television to see ad after ad for astrologers. Late night television was literally awash with different psychics, homeopathic remedies, and of course, astrologers. My aunt was not one of those on t.v., but, in the comfort of her home, I knew she must be doing pretty well. Still skeptical, I went to get a glass of water, to find her sitting in the kitchen. That was when we had a talk that would change my life, forever.
As it turns out, my aunt was a very well known astrologer. She had been practicing for decades, and she told me of the many clients she’d helped through their troubles. She even had some celebrities on her roster! Some would fly in, from all over the world, just to seek her counsel.
Of course, at the time, I was still skeptical but, that was when I began studying the craft, myself. After all, once she had his complete birth information, she drafted his chart and told me things that were so true. She also told me things I hadn’t really considered, but made so much sense now. She then showed me how my chart interacted with his in what’s known as a synastry report and my mind was absolutely blown! Of course, as a Gemini woman, well, on basic levels we are not all that compatible with Taurus men. However, armed with a new understanding and just a bit more hope, when I left to go home, I was ready.
When I got home, I called him. I was amazed at the incredibly long conversation we had! With my new understanding of Taurus men- even just the little I had learned at the time, I knew more about him than ever. He seemed shocked at how well I “got him” now, when before, he’d felt I hadn’t truly understood him at all. That was why we’d broken up, because he had felt insecure about things and he just didn’t think that we were a match. Now, he seemed to have a change of heart- something that’s hard to get a Taurus man to do, and after that long conversation, he asked if I wanted to meet for coffee.
Now, this guide to Taurus men is special for many reasons and it truly hits close to home. You see, not only did the entire thing lead to my learning astrology- but, well, it changed my life in other ways, too. For the next few years, I went back to visit my aunt so many times. I took seminars in the states, and I learned so much about astrology. This became a calling and, well, it turned into a career helping others better understand not only each other, but themselves as well.
So, what happened with my Taurus man and what else about all of this changed my life? In those years, my Taurus was by my side. Our love was deeper and stronger than ever. Of course, our sex life had always been out of this world, but now it was more sensual and passionate.
We had many more hours long talks into the night, and after two years, he asked me to marry him. Of course, we did the work to grow our relationship, but using astrology to better understand it all was what made it happen when it seemed there was no hope at all.
My aunt was my matron of honor and the wedding itself was absolutely beautiful- and of course, the honeymoon was hotter than any other sex I’d ever had! Our relationship still has its ups and downs, but, because we both understand one another so much better: it’s strong, steadfast, and more than I had ever dreamed love could be!
In the course of my work, I have gotten so many emails from distraught men and women, who just cannot understand their mate.
I have talked with countless people about how to use astrology to help better their relationships, know themselves better- and of course, know their partners better. It is in that spirit that I hope this book helps you to have a stronger understanding of what makes these enigmatic men tick.
Just the basics
Taurus is the second sign of the zodiac and, is often referred to as The Bull. This is because the sign gets its origins with the Mesopotamians. The myth in particular being, the Bull of Heaven. The symbol for Taurus is meant to look like a bull’s head with horns. This season this sign rules is Springtime and its ruler is the planet Venus, but, it’s element is Earth. The color most often associated with Taurus is green, and the stone, is then, not surprisingly, emerald.
This sign rules the neck and throat. But what does this all mean? As I go through these explanations, understand that your horoscope is so much more than your sun sign or any one influence. In your natal chart, and anyone’s natal chart: there are many, many aspects at play and no one aspect defines everything. So, you put it all together as a whole. However, it all begins with the sun sign.
The Sun In Astrology
Of course, we’ve all heard the pick up line: What’s your sign? We are all also familiar with our horoscopes as we see them in various publications. This is a good place to begin and there is good reason for the popularity of this particular aspect. This is because, no matter what other factors are at play: a person’s time of birth and place of birth, usually, we can easily obtain someone’s birthday to get a peek at what’s going on. You probably know that the other planets in our solar system move around the Sun and this is a very similar concept to how astrology works.
The Sun is often referred to as the life giving force- and in astrology, this is where we find information about our conscious mind. The will to live, our personality, and the face we show to the world. This aspect represents our ego and our basic identity. So, when someone calls themselves a “Taurus” or a “Gemini” or, any other sign, this is what they are referring to. Because all of the other influences at play in your chart will sort of work with the Sun, this is the basis, but, it’s really a part of a much bigger overall puzzle. If you’ve ever wondered why it is that sometimes, people really don’t seem like their sign or why your horoscope seems general: that’s why. Because, this is the sort of foundation, but it’s really not the whole house, so to speak.
Now, I will be using a lot of terms throughout this book, and I’d like to give you just a brief glimpse of what some of those terms may mean. This will help you to better understand how we can use astrology to not only attract a mate: Taurus or otherwise, but, also, the other ways in which you can use it to empower yourself to live a happier, more abundant life. What Is a Natal Chart?
Whenever you see things that reference getting a “chart done”, or a “natal chart” or a “birth chart”, people are talking about a specialized horoscope. This is an astrological chart that has been created based on your exact time, place, and location of birth. This can give you a very deep look at a person’s motivations, their backgrounds, their character, and their personality. We do this by analyzing the position of each aspect- planets and other things, and the astrological houses that come into play.
The most basic foundations of these charts are the zodiac signs, the planets, and the houses they fall into. You see, your birth chart is a very large wheel- with another wheel within it. The outer will be the signs while the inner will be the houses. Think about it this way: those planets that are moving through your chart, or your Taurus man’s chart- they’re more the what, whereas the signs are the how and then, the houses are where this impacts us. Fixed Signs Vs. Mutable Signs Vs. Cardinal Signs
As I mentioned before, you may already know that your Taurus man is a very stubborn, hard headed sort. Fixed sign, all the way! The signs, being classified as “fixed” or “mutable” tend to carry different characteristics. This upholds a sort of universal balance in play. Fixed signs’ role in the universe as it were are to be more responsible, set and reach goals, maintain things, and in general- they’re just the stabilizers of the zodiac.
Your Taurus, being born under a fixed sign and being ruled by Earth has a keen focus on obtaining things and, well, even people. He’ll likely be very protective, as he is with the things he’s earned. They also have extremely sensual natures, due to that Venus influence I mentioned earlier. Putting this all together, you’ve got yourself a very sensual male who loves to be able to smell, touch, taste, hold, and, yes, to own. He will, however, usually have just as much respect for those things you earned as he does for his own things- because his temperament is that of a stable protector.
The concept of being a “fixed sign” actually applies to Leo, Aquarius, and Scorpio, as well as Taurus. We won’t be going much into the houses in astrology in this book, but those houses in a natal chart that are said to be fixed are the 2nd, 5th, 8th, and 11th. In any given natal chart, if you have more planets in any of those houses, they’re going to carry more “fixed” attributes.
For those people with fixed signs- they are solid to a fault, at times. With an innate understanding that slow and steady wins the race, they will typically be people who can work steadily to their goals. They don’t find a whole lot of struggle in keeping things going to conclusion, but might have a little bit of a hard time getting started.
Looking at that group of signs, you might be noting that a couple of them are seemingly different as night and day. However, if you understand that the attributes at their core are what put them in the same grouping, it makes a bit more sense. While a Leo man might be flashier than a Taurus, there is no denying that both of those signs possess a deep will, a stubbornness and a very my way or the highway approach to life. People born under fixes signs are also known to be persistent, reliable, and absolutely determined to meet their goals- once they have them.
Now that we understand the basics a little better, let’s take a look at a brief overview of your Taurus man.
Understanding Taurus, The Bull
Of course, you may be familiar with how people use just that symbol of the bull as a sort of indication of power, of virility, and strength. We know that, well, you leave a bull alone in a field and it will be happy to just hang out, eating and being comfortable. However, you wave a red flag or provoke one of these animals- and look out! That powerful animal can and will charge with a ferocity! Taurus people are really not much different. Most people who have been around a Taurus for any amount of time can tell you how calming they are, how stable- but will readily tell you that if you mess with the bull, you are definitely going to get those horns.
And of course, we all know that in the beginning, it can really seem that there’s something very stable, reliable, and just plain solid about a Taurus. They do seem to be so dependable and unfortunately, also seem to be very much, creatures of habit. More than that, and I’ll get more into this as we explore Taurus men: they are incredibly sensual. Sensuality, however, encompasses so much more than just sex- it’s just pleasure in general. They adore good food, wonderful smells, comforting clothes and bedding, they’ll adore having beautiful things surrounding them to look at. Everyone loves the finer things in life, but a Taurus will take this up a notch- and it’s a deeply intrinsic part of their overall personality and how they view themselves. They are literally sense-ual, as in, guided almost entirely by those senses of theirs.
The upshot of all of this is, once you get a bull moving on something, there is very little that will stop them. When they play, they play hard. When they rest, they rest deeply. When they work...they also work very, very hard. When, though. If you’re expecting something fast, you might want to look elsewhere thana Taurus- because though they are hardworking at times, they aren’t particularly fast working. This is the sort of other side of that coin-dependability tends to mean something more steady and less hurried.
Because Taurus is well known for loving comfort and being pretty fixed in place, they can often come across as being lazy. One of the reasons this is so, is because they do have a tendency to keep work completely separate from play- or leisure. So, you’ll have someone who is incredibly relaxed and if that’s all you see- you might imagine that the Taurus you know is lazy. Until you do see them in action, until you do see them working. Biggest problem there is that once they are relaxed and comfortable- they don’t particularly want to be anything else, so getting them started can be problematic.
This also unfortunately, holds true on all fronts: physical, mental, and emotional. They like to stay in those comfort zones- whether it’s a warm, clean bed with fluffy pillows and wonderful perfumes or a mindset that might actually not be doing them a whole lot of good. They come by that reputation for stubbornness very honestly! They want to put down roots from which they can then be comfortable- not realizing that being rooted sometimes means stifling their growth. That doesn’t mean they can’t, it just means that it takes a little doing.
Another area of conflict most find in Taurus types: possessiveness.
Believe me, if you’ve felt like your Taurus just doesn’t care because they never seem jealous- and then, you are completely thrown off guard by a sudden bout of the green eyed monster, you are not alone. Though not the type to engage in petty jealousy- sometimes, their possessive nature does in fact extend to those they care about. If someone threatens that: even the person they feel is “theirs”, look out. Things can get pretty tense, pretty quickly. In order to engage in a more serious relationship with any Taurus, you’ll definitely need to understand that there is a big difference between jealousy and possessiveness.
An Earth Sign With a Venus Twist
So, in astrology, the aspects are often assigned to Elements. These elements are Earth, Wind, Water, Fire, and sometimes, Spirit, although spirit isn’t used in astrology traditionally speaking. The Earth signs are Taurus, Virgo, and Capricorn. Think about the elements in terms of the symbology they hold: you’ve probably heard the metaphor “salt of the Earth” or perhaps heard of someone referred to as having their “feet on the ground”? This is a basic attribute that is often affiliated with the Earth signs- they’re dependable, practical, and tend to want things to be as reliable as they are.
You probably know that in nature, these elements are at play to make up everything and they all tie together. Similarly, in astrology, the Earth signs are those that create, but not necessarily in the artistic or more figurative sense. No, this is a very tangible, literal thing. This might mean building a home, it might be building a career, forming a family with someone- as a matter of fact, it’s probably all of those things. They seek stability and generally have a very good understanding that in order to have that, they need to work with their ambition and drive to work hard.
Another attribute commonly associated with “Earth” is loyalty and a sense of duty or responsibility. If you’ve ever really been involved with someone who is an Earth sign- you have probably noticed that they tend to have a conservative approach to most things. Even the most wild among them has a sort of stick in the mud side that comes out on occasion- if it’s not a staple of their personality. That isn’t to say they’re not wild or that they aren’t sensual. Quite the contrary. The Earth signs are more primal, more sensual, and much, much more than meets the eye.
So, then, what do I mean when I say “A Venus Twist”? Well, you probably wouldn’t consider practicality exactly a romantic thing. You certainly don’t associate budgeting and routine with sexy behavior and indulgence. Truthfully, Tauruses, like all Earth signs, can come across as being somewhat stoic and logical- but, when you pair that primal force of the Earth itself with Venus: you have got a wonderfully warm, albeit, often confusing package.
You probably know that Venus is the goddess of love- actually, Venus is tied in to the Goddess Aphrodite. She represents those things of beauty, of love, of sensuality, and yes, sex. In astrology- we use Venus to look at the way that a person loves, sure. We also use this aspect to look at the way that they create, the way their kindness is expressed, how sensitive and compassionate they can be. Venus’s influence in your natal chart is usually pretty widely distributed- this is because the planet goes through it’s cycles about once each year, visiting each one of the 12 signs in turn.
Venus’s cycle is a bit variable at times- but, mostly, because this is the second closest planet to the Sun, it takes roughly 225 days for the planet to move through all of the signs.
If you are familiar with someone’s full natal chart, if you have someone with a Venus dominant chart, they tend to be more gentle, caring, and focused a bit on outward physical appearances. They might be somewhat artistic, sensual, and certainly capable of some seriously smooth seduction.
All About Taurus Men
Before we get into this section, understand that this is just a glimpse of your Taurus male. I’m going to be going through these things in much more detail- but also, how you can use these things to your advantage, from start to finish. Whether you are looking to attract a Taurus man or, you’re looking to deepen your relationship by better understanding him: this guide will help you at any stage of things.
Before you attempt to even catch the eye of one of these incredibly steadfast men, you must understand that a Taurus man may seem to be completely without ego, but it’s very much there. It’s simply quieter and understated than most. The Bull does everything with a lot of thought, pride, and tenacity. This holds no truer than when he’s seeking out a life mate. Understanding that the most common, basic stereotypes will lead you down the wrong path, first, will help you to put yourself in the position to win his heart, mind, and body.
These men are incredibly patient, often very much set in their ways, and stubborn to a fault. However, they won’t get into relationships, projects, or anything else unless they know there will be a reward at the end of the hard work.
The Bull is an interesting pairing of being an Earth sign, and ruled by Venus. What this means is, they have a deep love for the tangible. The physical and the material are very important to them. They can also be very much prone to decadence and excess, but quite willing to do what it takes to get that end result. If something seems a waste of time, they just won’t bother.
One of the most frustrating things for a woman looking to date a Taurus male is in that odd, seemingly conflicted view of things. They love all things luxury, and yet, are prudent with both their money and affection.
Granted, depending on the other facets of his chart, he may lean more towards excess and you can thank (Or blame!) that strong Venus influence for that. It can be confusing to see, because hot and cold is very much a Taurus standard. “Go big or go home” is completely appropriate here because if they don’t feel they can go big: they will “go home”. Whether that is their actual home or just distancing themselves, many women have experienced the absolutely lavish romance of a Taurus man only to find a week later: he’s as cold as ice.
Preventing that is actually very easy if you know their code. The ultimate end goal for a Taurus man is a very comfortable, happy home, a partner in the truest sense of the word and stability. If you come across as not being stable, he may not take you very seriously.
If you want to know the ultimate Taurus male motivation: he wants the long term life partner. He is looking to stabilize his life and likely, no matter how flirty and attention grabbing he seems now: somewhere in the back of his mind, he’s envisioning that perfect partner, the beautifully kept home, the family, and a strong routine.
No matter how much he indulges now, there’s always this deep longing to be committed to one person, in the same relationship, with the same routines as long as possible. For them, changing things up is often far too much effort and really, this isn’t his thing. Many a woman has found herself in the unfortunate position of being the Taurus male’s “for now” and getting dropped like a rock when the perfect mate came on the scene. Once he feels that has happened, you’re better served giving up and finding someone else: because that’s all he’s ever wanted, and once he has it, he won’t risk it or let it go.
If you are that “perfect mate” however, you’ll find that it’s a life of comfort and stability. Or at least, he will do all he can to see to it that it is and if you’re actively working with him in support of that common goal- you’ll further solidify his perception of you as being perfect. He may be remarkably demanding and even bossy at times- but, often, the payoff is well worth it if you’re looking for someone who is never matched in loyalty. Fall off that pedestal, however, and there may be no climbing back up.
The Upsides of Dating a Taurus Man
Though it might not seem like it at first, Taurus males are capable of loyalty unlike any other. The thing is, getting them to the point where they believe you are the best and are deserving of such loyalty. Doing that is actually a fairly straightforward process: be as stable and loyal as they are, continually applying genuine praise and affirmations. Note, I said straightforward, not easy.
If you can keep your head about you, remembering why he’s there, it will help you to foster this loyalty. Essentially, as I mentioned, he is looking for something real, stable, and he’s not wanting to play a lot of games or deal with a lot of drama to get it. In the earliest days of dating him or trying to get his attention- understanding that he’s observing you will help. Engaging in behaviors he has trouble taking seriously will result in him not taking you very seriously either: and won’t earn that famed loyalty. He wants to be sure you can give that steadfast loyalty before he’ll give it, and often, it can seem like an uphill battle. Once you’ve earned it, however, it’s there and it can be hard to budge.
Before you enjoy the Taurus man’s stability, you have to be absolutely sure that’s what you want. For many, this stability can seem very rigid and it can seem boring. However, if you are looking for someone who is consistent in all things: you’re simply not going to find someone who is more consistent than a Taurus.
Remembering that this is a man who values routine and doesn’t like taking risks, in order to truly appreciate this wonderful trait: you have to actually appreciate it. He is most certainly a rock, but, if you find yourself beating your head against said rock, it can be very frustrating.
For women who are looking for a stable, consistent family life that is truly settling down, the Taurus man is worth every effort and confusion that may come in those early days.
Taurus men tend to be very nurturing, but, it also often mirrors the nurturing they receive. Basically, if you want to be spoiled, well, spoil him. It is incredibly common to find that your Taurus man had a very doting mother, and likely, he still dotes on her. This is because they are again, all about building foundations and there is no foundation stronger than that built by love. Though at times, they have a hard time conflating the material with the emotional- you’ll find that once you have a Taurus man with that balance, the positive feedback loop is amazing. He will want to take care of you from the very core of his being, and everything he does will revolve around it.
The Downsides of Dating a Taurus Man
Because these men are actually at heart long haul types, understanding the downsides of a Taurus man can help you figure things out and adapt. Of course, this is just the basic overview and I will go more into detail as we get further into things, but, if you’re reading this, you are already quite familiar with these common frustrations.
Appearances Are Everything
Unfortunately, one of the biggest conflicts about the Taurus man is that though he loathes fakes: he is also hard press to go beneath the surface of things. He might care a bit more about the way someone comes across than how they actually are- but, this is less being shallow and more his belief that this is the way they “should” be.
As they mature, this mindset evolves, but, because a Taurus is very much a “What you see is what you get” even though that’s usually not true of them: they expect everyone else is, too. They may make quick judgement calls based on surface impressions alone, which can be incredibly problematic. Beyond that, the tendency towards caring about outward appearance a little too much can result in him making others feel like they’re less than adored- when just a few moments ago, he was lavish with his praise.
If you haven’t seen this side of him yet, and you haven’t also met his family or closest friends? You will see it swiftly then. Probably more so than any other time. He has worked very hard, usually over the course of decades to foster their adoration and he won’t have you derail it with a crass joke or what he deems “inappropriate behavior”. As harsh as that may sound, understanding it will help you better understand where he’s coming from in it.
Because Taurus males tend to be a bit more practical and focused on practical things, emotional health and wellbeing is often neglected. When you pair that with the “I am always right”, pointing out to them that a well placed “I love you” here and there means more to you than Netflix and Chill might have him confused and perplexed. For him, simply being there is one of the highest expressions of his commitment- and that can be very confusing to the partner who wants that high romance they’re often rumored to display.
Unfortunately, the women who have experienced that romantic side often find out all too quickly that’s where it sits. If you find yourself not understanding why the emotional depth doesn’t follow the dozen roses: that’s why. Because he thinks that in sending you those flowers, his work is done, here. Can he grow beyond this? Oh, certainly. However, if you believe that you’re going to be the one to help him do that: you may want to reconsider. While he will value a partner that supports him in that very slow growth, one who pushes will be seen as aggressive and not valuing him as he feels he should be. It’s really not a good idea and it can blow up in your face.
If he decides that he’s ready to grow, and ready to open up on those levels, however, the partner that supports and fosters this will be held higher than anyone else. Remember, he wants the best in all things and if he wants to be his best, your support will mean everything to him in it. The other thing here is his sense of fairness- if you want him to grow emotionally, but you aren’t doing so, yourself, it won’t work. He will want you as committed to self improvement as you are to his improvement.
The materialism of the Taurus male, like everything else about him, can be quite confusing. People tend to imagine that this means they want lots of things, focusing only on things you can buy- but it’s so much more than that.
Of course, yes, there is that surface level materialism. They do enjoy and want nice things. The best things, if you must know- but, this becomes problematic when it merges with their practical side. For a Taurus male that is utterly convinced that “this is how things are”- that is how things will stay, even if it means he cannot have those nice things he dreams of. To the outside observer, that can appear lazy as he will often speak of those things he would love to have, yet, won’t be doing a whole lot to get them.
It’s not actually lazy, nor is it “acceptance” in the zen sense that he may try to paint it. It’s complacency. He fears failing, he fears disappointment, and, being someone who views things as an investment: he’s not really all that inclined to take that risk.
This becomes ironic and frustrating if you happen to be that “perfect partner” he is looking for. One of the biggest pitfalls to finally snaring that Taurus male is the big dreams that go nowhere unless you push them there. You may find yourself fighting against his complacency at times, but ultimately, if you fight through that and help him get on the right path: there will be no ally more dogged in helping make those dreams reality. It’s just getting him started that’s tough.
The Basic Rules of Attraction
If you’re looking for a fire-fueled, chaotic, dramatic and passionate relationship: you may want to opt for a different man. The very last thing a Taurus male wants is a constant drama bomb. They want stability, but most importantly, they want emotional stability. Many people simply say they don’t want drama, yet are constantly embroiled in some battle or another: but a Taurus man means it. If you’re a fairly moody person, it may not be a good idea to go for these guys. More than not liking it, often, they simply refuse to engage in it- many women have thought to break those seemingly still waters with jealousy games and otherwise- only to find their calls are never returned again.
From a physical standpoint, many will have a “type”, but, for being very Earthy and Venus driven, they’re not fixated on that. No, they want the best in all things, and they’re pretty good about balance there. The key, however, is that you take care of yourself. However they define it will be different from man to man, but, here are 3 tried and true things they always hold true. Of course, I will go more into detail on this later, but these are a few of the “rules of thumb” when it comes to Taurus men.
1) Always smell good. Whether you’re dealing with a Taurus male or a female- their noses are one of the best ways to either attract them or put them off entirely. Of course, nobody likes stinky pits, but for Taurus types, this is a particularly motivating factor.
2) Slobs need not apply. Though they have a tendency towards laziness at times, themselves owing to that Venus influence, Taurus males will quickly reject anyone who seems to be consistently sloppy.
They’re pretty understanding of a lazy afternoon in, and as long as you smell good: your comfy jammies while watching movies all day will be fine. However, they adore seeing a woman done up. Hair, nails, feminine clothing, these are things they are drawn to.
3) The way to a Taurus man’s heart... It really is through his stomach. Though the very best way is if you made it yourself, if you aren’t a particularly good cook, fine dining will definitely do. If it smells good, looks good, and most importantly tastes good- you’re good.
In those early days of trying to catch a Taurus man’s eye- one thing to know is that they’re not exactly ego driven males who pick up on each little cue. Matter of fact, they are often very slow to realize what’s going on. If you’re imagining that he’s noticed any subtle clues you’re leaving, you’re probably mistaken.
Expecting a Taurus fella to take the initiative based on a few longing looks or suggestive remarks is pretty much setting yourself up to fail: it is not likely to happen. If you’re planning on waiting around for him to make that first move- you might be waiting for a very, very long time.
The problem here isn’t so much that they’re dumb. Far from it. For a Taurus, trust can be hard earned, including trust in themselves. So, while he might be wondering if you are actually flirting with him- he may never ask you and he may never act on simply wondering alone. The best approach to take when you’re just trying to get his attention is a find balance of both subtle flirtation, conversations, and a few well placed complements. Once you’ve established that you are interested in this way, then, you can make the next move and get things on track. If you keep in mind that building foundations in all things are an important aspect to the Taurus way of life, well, it stands to reason this would hold true in relationships, as well.
Another key factor in just getting him interested? No fakes. Nothing over the top or disingenuous. While they adore compliments- they’re very quick to judge flattery as empty and false.
Slathering on the over the top flattery will immediately cause them to be suspicious and he may determine that you’re a fake. That is the last thing you want to do when you’re looking to be with a Taurus. They loathe fakes and if it even seems slightly dishonest, even if it’s well intended, it’s almost a sure fire way to get shut down.
They are also more apt to go for a woman who is feminine and soft rather than aggressive. If your usual approach is somewhat vampy- dial that down. Instead of burning him up in the fire of passion, turn the flame to warm and take your time. The process itself can either be incredibly fun or frustrating, and that will all depend on how you approach it. Looking at everything you do as an investment is important, because this is also how he’s looking at it.
Stability and Respect In All Things
One of the most wonderful things about a Taurus male is once you’ve got his attention, they can be devoted, doting lovers. Thing is, if you aren’t meeting them equally on that high ground, they won’t hesitate to cut you off. In the early days, you’re not a permanent fixture and you won’t be for some time. They need to see consistency and it has to be proven over time. Being very, very patient is key, here. For them, the end goal is a stable and happy home. In order for you to be a part of that dream future, you have to be...stable and happy.
They can be very understanding of issues like depression or their partner being down in the dumps- but, if a Taurus male doesn’t feel his efforts are rewarded, he may cut and run. He wants a partner that he can satisfy, that he can make happy, and while some signs enjoy a challenge: Taurus isn’t one of them. They are most definitely capable of rising to them, but, whether they want to or not is the problem.
As I mentioned earlier, an attempt at making a Taurus male jealous will backfire harder on you than with any other sign. Sure, they can get jealous just like anyone else, but they hate game playing and are very perceptive. If you accidentally make one jealous, that can be overcome, but if you’re deliberately attempting to catch your Taurus male’s eye by flirting with someone else? Hopefully, you like that other person because this bullish male will shrug and simply say, “That’s fine. Let me clear up your confusion. Pick that one, I’m off the table, now.”
This might be somewhat confusing if you’ve ever accidentally made a Taurus jealous: because oh, they can get very possessive. It may seem conflicting, but actually, it isn’t. They are possessive and fiercely territorial, however, there is a big difference between this and petty jealousy- particularly for the Taurus man. Persistent and dedicated, they work very hard towards their goals. They are willing to put a tremendous amount of effort into everything they do, and that includes your relationship. If you show them that you can get your head easily turned by another? They will feel they’ve wasted their time, energy, and effort. That’s not something you want to do with these men who believe that respect is an essential part of everything.
This can be very confusing in the early days of getting to know him, because they aren’t particularly vocal. They prefer acts of service when it comes to showing how they feel, and though many of them have deeply romantic sides: that practical nature might get in the way of things.
Problem is, well, the Taurus male tends to be kind and giving towards a lot of people, so deciphering whether or not his kindness towards you is an expression of his feelings or not can be hard. If you have a Taurus man that is being kind to you, listening to you, helping you out- you cannot assume that he is doing so because he’s into you. The same thing can be said if you see your Taurus male being kind towards another woman. If you are jealous towards him, you’ll find out very quickly how insulted he can get. If he has chosen you: he expects you to know it. Unfortunately, this stubborn man doesn’t particularly understand why you don’t.
Some have said that Taurus men and women get easily jealous. Again, this is a common misconception. Of course, they can and they do, but, that jealousy can never be used as a tool to get the attention you feel they’re capable of but not giving. In the first place, as I mentioned before, they will spot that game before you even make your first real move- and it will put a big dent in their trust for you. This can potentially lead to an end of the relationship right then and there or, something much slower and more painful.
The distinction lies in the difference between being possessive and being jealous. He will most likely be tremendously territorial, possessive, and at times, yes, even jealous. However, he doesn’t like feeling like he could lose you: remember, for him, stability and respect are central to everything. The reason attempts at deliberately making a Taurus man jealous will backfire horribly? They’d rather lose you than deal with the up and down threats of possibly losing you. These men are looking for long term and they are looking for stable. Think about it a moment and it makes perfect sense- and there are much better ways to get the attention you want, without risking the relationship.
The Difference Between Possessiveness and Jealousy
People often confuse possessiveness with being jealous. Though both are very normal human attributes- there is a difference. Jealousy is an emotion, whereas being possessive is a behavior. I am going to go into this next section because this is a problem that many women encounter in dating- but, there is a line and that line needs to be firmly established. This is not to say that your Taurus man fits the abusive mold- likely, he doesn’t, but, we cannot talk about the difference between these two things without going into this unfortunate occurrence. This is sadly a reality, but one that I hope you can avoid. Before we talk about the normal, and relatively healthy differences between these two: understand that there are certain behaviors that you should never accept and they are not your fault. These behaviors are abusive and if you find yourself faced with them- do not imagine that there is anything you can say or do to change them. You are not to blame, nor is this your responsibility- and you are not alone. If these things hold true, reach out to someone you can trust and get help getting out of that situation. Again, this is not your fault. Some of these behaviors may be:
1. Controlling Behavior: tries to tell you how to dress, acts as
though you cannot make decisions or that you are “stupid”, insists that you check in with him frequently, interrogates you about where you’ve been, who you were with, what you were wearing and questions beyond taking an interest, wants to monitor or stalk your social media profiles, email, or phone calls 2. Unhealthy Jealous Behaviors: constant accusations of infidelity, doesn’t “allow” you to have friends of the opposite sex or even becomes jealous of your time spent with friends and family 3. Unrealistic Expectations: may be over the top with
compliments, depend on you for all of his needs and wants, expects perfection of you, is overly critical of the way that you do things 4. Isolation: Does not “allow” you to use the phone, the car, or
otherwise leave without him, may make it harder for you to engage in social activities, go to work or school, is constantly critical of your friends and loved ones, claims that your family or friends are trying to control you, downplays how others care about you, ie: he’s only friends with you because he wants you, she’s only friends with you because she likes getting the attention, they don’t really love you 5. Emotional: Assigns responsibility to you or others for his
emotions, uses guilt warfare- ie: it hurts me that you want do what I say, does not take responsibility for their own ability to control their emotions- ie: I love you so much I can’t help getting angry
That said, insecurity is a very normal human emotion, as is, to some extent, jealousy and possessiveness. Now, we’ll go into the normal, healthy differences and how this plays out in the Taurus male.
Love of Stability You have to understand that the driving factor underneath almost all Tauruses is a love of stability and routine. So, while you might not see petty jealousy- if that stability and routine becomes less so: you might see possessiveness. There’s an interesting, albeit fine line here and for a Taurus man, this isn’t something you want to play emotional games with. If he is looking at you as a potential life mate: using your presence in his life as the sort of gambit in a game will usually result in you losing. In other words, if you ever become so frustrated that you threaten to leave- you might want to be ready to make good on that. That isn’t to say that you should allow him to become so comfortable that he takes you for granted- but, understand that the way you express your frustration needs to be healthy discussions.
Creating a process by which you both grow with the relationship is actually something that he will appreciate, but...nagging, threats, and attempts to make him jealous, not so much. He wants to know that you are there because you’re in it for the long haul, so, addressing the concerns you have rationally and clearly will help bring you closer together. You will also find that this approach makes you happier, too.
Taurus Man Attraction A-Z
Strong. Masculine. Sensual. Often the silent, seemingly untouchabley calm man, mysterious and engaging. How do you get under the skin of a man that seems like nothing gets under his skin?
Well, it’s going to require a bit of balance.
How A Taurus Man Shows He’s Into You
It can be remarkably frustrating in the early days of courting a Taurus male. There are so many reasons for this, but none more so than simply not knowing how they feel. If you take a look around, you’ll see tons of articles and otherwise about how romantic these guys are, and yet, you may not be seeing those behaviors in yours. That’s because it can often take them a long time to get to that point. They are perfectionists at heart and often, if they can’t offer something perfect- they don’t bother trying at all. They aren’t big risk takers, but loyalty is everything to them. For these men, however, it takes time to build that loyalty, and trust must be both given and earned. Though yes, they can be highly romantic, these gestures are how they show they love- so, if he doesn’t love just yet, he may not be all that inclined towards that display.
Many woman has misread the “signals” with a Taurus man. Dating one, you’ll find that he does things for you and at first, these considerate acts can make you feel very special. Until you see he’s doing that for pretty much everyone in his life. Not exactly the kind of thing that makes a girl feel all that special, but, there are a few ways to discern whether or not the way he treats you is actually different.
Taurus males can be really confusing also due to the fact that they’re pretty “manly men” but, they’re also tremendous lovers of beauty. Though they’re known for being absolutely candid and blunt, they can also be remarkably manipulative: which seems contradictory, but it really isn’t. People born under the sign of Taurus are, in general, people who react but aren’t known for initiating action. This is because they’re waiting to see what others are going to do, first. Waiting for others to play their hand and then, they have all their own motivations and responses at the ready.
This is extremely deliberate, as anyone who has ever been with a Taurus long term will tell you. In doing this, they can sort of survey the situation- so they can be the masters of it. They have a tremendous appetite, both literally and figuratively, and it’s often a little hard for them to resist the pleasures of the flesh. While not particularly ego driven, they offer another frustrating contradiction in how they respond to attention, particularly, romantic attention.
If you’ve ever thrown yourself at a Taurus male only to find him ducking and dodging, you know that frustration. He will seem completely oblivious to the point where you feel like this is just how you must approach things- but then, when you do, it’s a huge flop. Yet, you will see his friends practically hero worship him and all his attention goes there. How does that work?
Because he wants to be worshipped, but he wants it to be genuine hero worship. No empty words, no over the top expressions unless they’re filled with absolutely real adoration.
He will seem completely masculine and very Alpha Male, right up until he’s involved. He seems very laid back, often with this submissive behavior, again, until he’s involved. Once invested, that’s when the surprise comes in. The Taurus male can be one of the most controlling signs there is. The entire time he’s been allowing you to make the decisions- he’s been evaluating how you do. Planning his next move, strategizing it all. In doing this, he gets all the best things, often without ever having to really lift a finger- and this is just the way he likes it.
Once he has them, however, look out. Because that’s when you’ll see the bull that charges the red flag. That’s when the darker side of Taurus emerges. The side that will throw himself into things and do whatever it takes to keep those wonderful things that have seemingly just fallen into his lap.
That said, people are also often perplexed at how such a doggedly loyal and romantic sign can also be one of the most “Playboy” types out there. This one’s pretty easy to understand if you look at the psychology at play. First, of course, he may have many friends who adore him. Many people have been thrown and jealous by the fact that, well, while it seems their Taurus man is so into them, he’ll still keep these people around who are clearly sexually and romantically attracted to him. It’s a safety net. It’s a means of controlling the situation without having to. He does this just in case the relationship he’s working on happens to not go the way he hopes.
This can often happen for the Taurus male because, well, for many women: having this man who goes from being absolutely wonderful, attentive, and sexual to one of the most confusing and distant is a hard road to navigate. The kind of self doubt that a Taurus can foster is immense, but, it’s also usually because of the way they actually communicate- versus the way their partners think they communicate, or don’t. Body language, actions, and where he prioritizes his time are a big hint as to what he cares about most.
Though they often seem to be very sexual, very sensual and just burn hot, most people don’t understand that Taurus men? They’re also very conservative. Even the most flamboyant Taurus man is at heart, quite introverted. The “real” Taurus under any bluster you may see is a silent observer who builds walls of protection to keep his feelings safe and secure. They have very high standards for ethics and in general, have a pessimistic view of how the world works. Their way, or the highway, tends to be how they operate and they do not tend to trust anything that doesn’t see their rightness.
The early stages of dating one of these man can be the most confusing and it’s also why they might seem like playboys. This isn’t because they’re incapable of relationships, it’s because they’re researching. He will observe the way you interact with others, he’ll pay attention to all sorts of small things that you don’t even think about.
If you want to understand the Taurus man, it is not as easy as it looks, for you must first know everything about this sign. This sensible, down-to-earth Taurus man will not open up easily. It is all up to you, how to handle him, for after all, it is you who will be having all the fun afterwards. So here are the signs that a Taurus man likes you:
Understanding these men isn’t as easy as some think. They may be sensible and down to earth, but they’re also not easily cracked open. For one thing, they aren’t fond of being that vulnerable, but for another? It takes time. They do that deliberately, they are working towards making sure that you are safe, stable, and that you aren’t going to use their vulnerabilities against them. Once you make it through that, these men are pretty easy going and open with their feelings- but, watching for clues as the slow going Taurus progresses can often be baffling.
Taurus men will court in one of two ways and rarely have I ever seen anything in between. They will either go completely over the top with romantic gestures, and very old school courting techniques- or, they will do things for you.
If your Taurus man isn’t delivering flowers and poems to your doorstep, but he’s always in your kitchen, he’s mowing your lawn, or he’s doing practical things for you? That’s romance for him. He wants to show you that he will take care of you and so, he is. Another big tip off lies in that hot and cold. You may spend an entire weekend together, and in that weekend there will be nothing but complete and undivided attention: but then the work week comes and he’s just gone?
It may not be that he’s ignoring you or even that you misread the weekend at all. He’s simply focused on the practical having felt like his undivided attention throughout that weekend showed you all you needed to know. He will be shocked and even baffled if you confront him at that point, and then, you’ll find out- he genuinely thought you understood how he felt based on the weekend. So much so, he figured, well, you didn’t need any more reassurance throughout the rest of the week. It’s somewhat dense, but, understanding that one simple thing will help you recognize you aren’t being given the cold shoulder: actually, quite the opposite.
Tip 1: Be Strong and Capable
Whether he is the strong, silent type or the more emotionally expressive style Taurus man: underneath all of that is a desire for a true partner, in every sense of the word. They are remarkably tenacious men who are capable of quite a bit, and they’ll expect you to be as well. If you aren’t- they won’t take you very seriously. However, you need to understand that unsolicited advice or help isn’t usually going to be well appreciated. More than one woman has really gone out of her way for a Taurus man, only to hear, “Well, I didn’t ask for that.” when upset at what seems like a lack of gratitude. Any help, support, or other contributions must be in the spirit of partnership- not seen as an attack on his own capability. Understanding that he is looking for that best friends relationship will help balance things a great deal.
Tip 2: Appeal to His Love of Beauty
Though Taurus men want a woman who can easily walk by his side- they also want to feel that they are masculine. Many appreciate feminine approaches to things and enjoy it when a woman dresses up for them. However, be careful to pay attention to what his tastes are, and don’t do anything that is out of character for you, already. They don’t enjoy feeling that they’ve had to coerce anyone into doing anything and will spot falseness quickly.
Tip 3: Going From Confidence to Trust
Though Taurus men tend to be incredibly trustworthy- gaining their trust isn’t always easy. Have you ever noticed how in many romantic sitcoms, the man is portrayed as somewhat inept and the woman almost mothers him? This sort of mentality and engaging in behaviors based on these stereotypes are a sure fire way to find yourself cut loose for good with a Taurus man. They do not want to be seen as infantile or otherwise incapable and they do have a tremendous amount of personal pride. Gaining their trust requires that you also trust them to make decisions and patronizing them in this way will make them run fast and far from you. Instead, try being open to their experience, their perspectives, and offering input on the same level. Respectful dialogues are a good way to show them that you value what they have to offer, but that you can hold your own, as well.
This might actually be something of a challenge, because, for as much personal pride as a Taurus man may have in himself- he doesn’t do hints very well when it comes to romance. If you’re imagining that he will take the first move based on some mild flirtation, you might be in for a long wait. Instead, consider a balance of expressing your interest with allowing him to take the initiative. While he may appreciate your candor, aggressive pursuits don’t tend to appeal to them, either. Like many men, they enjoy a bit of the back and forth, so be sure you’re balancing that out.
Tip 4: Understand that Appearances Can Be Deceiving
Taurus men aren’t usually the most over the top with expressing how they feel. It can be remarkably difficult to tell when they’re falling for you because of this. Though they are known for a keen flair for romance, when it comes to verbalizing those feelings- they have a harder time. It takes quite a bit for a Taurus male to open up and be vulnerable, but he will be expressing his feelings in other, more tangible ways.
A Note About Compatibility
Before we begin, you need to understand- there really is no such thing as incompatible signs. There are just varying degrees in which those signs will either get along, or areas in which they won’t. If two people have more compatible signs, they’ll be more or less on the same wavelength and therefore- they will be “more compatible”. However, if you’ve been told that you won’t be able to make it work just because your signs aren’t compatible- you’re dealing with someone who just doesn’t know how it works. While signs that are deemed less than compatible may require a bit more patience and understanding to work well together- when they do, some of the most profoundly deep and lasting relationships are forged.
Many believe that signs that carry the same element will work best together. So, Earth signs with Earth signs- Capricorn, Virgo, and Taurus. Fire with fire- Leo, Aries, and Sagittarius. Water with water- Scorpio, Pisces, and Cancer. Lastly- Air with air: Libra, Aquarius, and Gemini.
Now, does that mean if you’re a Gemini, like myself, you can’t be with a Taurus successfully? Of course not. While those who are born under those same elements tend to experience more fluid relationships- this isn’t the end all be all of compatibility. It’s just the beginning. Even at this very beginning, there are things you can understand and this will make your relationship have much more potential than had you not known it in the first place.
From the earliest days in human history, people have been fascinated with the idea that there is one perfect mate out there for everyone. While I have never quite felt that it had to be only one, I have definitely come around to the realization that we can use astrology to find out just how compatible we might be with someone. In addition to this, we can also use it to find the ways to keep love strong and healthy, with a stable foundation of trust and communication.
There are a number of astrological techniques which can be used, and in this book, I’m only reaching the surface- and given the wealth of information here alone, you can imagine what an intensely explorative topic it really can be! Using techniques known as synastry and composite charts, we can calculate the potential compatibility, issues, and other factors between two people that may impact their relationships. Far from only being used for romantic partnerships, we can utilize astrology to learn about friendships, family, and even business deals. There really is no limit to what you can learn by simply having someone’s accurate date, time, and place of birth.
The very best way to find that true love- and to keep it, will be in first knowing thyself. The old saying is to thine own self be true- and in order to do so, you’ve really got to take the time to learn who you are, and to love and accept yourself on that level. Those things that society makes us believe we want in a relationship or those things we expect may be very different from what might actually be what makes us tick- and even then, different from what may be best for us on the whole.
Most astrologers will start off a compatibility chart with looking at your own natal chart, first. This is because looking into your chart will help you to better understand those issues at your core, and the things that may be at play in not only your desires, but your emotional reactions and defense mechanisms. There are a number of facets that we look into, usually, starting with the Sun sign- which is what we explore in this book, and then going into the ascendant, the Moon sign- for emotions, and then, other planets and the houses in which they fall into.
After that, both charts will be compared so that we can get a much deeper look at not just you, and not just your partner, but the development of the relationship, and how it can proceed in the best possible way, what to look out for and what issues may arise. We also look into those aspects that will connect these planetary positions and how they impact each other and what that may mean for the relationship. There are a multitude of factors involved in each chart, and then, they combine in a new chart that outlines the relationship itself. Our synastry charts will be both charts of both partners compared, sort of side by side. The composite, however, is a chart of the relationship itself- using the midpoints of each partner’s chart. From there, we can examine the progressed charts and transits to see what upcoming events may influence both partners further. As you can see, astrological compatibility offers quite a lot! But, for now, we will just go into the sun sign compatibility and how you can use this to wow your Taurus man.
Taurus and Aries
This is actually an excellent match- though, from the outset, you might not imagine it would be. If you’re an Aries going for a Taurus- you may have some doubts and it can be frustrating at first. This really can be the perfect blend of love and passion- after all, Taurus is all about love, whereas Aries is that driven passion. This is one of those matches that will certainly require balance. As an Aries, you just want to get right in there and get things going. Now, now, now!
However, you might notice that, well, with this Taurus man- not so much. He wants to take it slowly, he needs a bit of charm and finesse. However, as an Aries- you might have a hard time getting your head around this. For you, when you know what you want, you want it and you’ll go to the ends of the earth to get it. When someone else doesn’t behave that way, it can be a little hard to understand, making you think that they’re not into you. This might not be true of the slower, more subtle Taurus.
Your Taurus man is going to be a lot more gentle, more patient, and sensual- which is something as an Aries, you will appreciate a lot. He will likely admire the way that you are able to reach out and get those things you want. The thing is, this relationship will either be something that becomes a learning experience or, it may be one where, when balance is achieved- you two become an unstoppable force, together.
First, you’ve got to get there, though. Now, you’ll be able to help him to be more adventurous, to get out of his comfort zone a bit- and he’ll be able to help you to be less impulsive and rash. However, both of these signs tend to carry a lot of pride. If he pulls out that Taurus-Earth Sign condescending approach as you attempt to re-write the Book of Love together: well, you might find yourself wanting to hit him in the head with it!
On the other hand, if it’s you who finds his slowness and sometimes seemingly lazy approach to inspire a bit of derision- he’ll just shut down. Your Taurus man isn’t going to want to fight with you, which may be a bit perplexing. Sometimes, for Aries, the fighting is as much of a rush as the sex in a relationship. This is something Taurus finds baffling: because they tend to believe that the perfect relationship is smooth sailing all the time.
Slow down a moment and think about this in astrological terms, though. You’ve got you- an Aries, and you are ruled by the planet Mars. Taurus, as I mentioned, is ruled by Venus. These two are the halves of what make a relationship whole, really: love and passion. This relationship can be an excellent match in terms of balancing the feminine and masculine aspects- blending that motivation with drive.
Taurus and Taurus
On the outset, this one seems a match made in heaven, doesn’t it? Two very sensual people who are seeking something stable and long term- how could that possibly go wrong? Well, what happens when you get two very stubborn people together? If they agree- it’s pure magic. But when they disagree, it’s more of a curse. When you two butt heads it can be pretty awful as neither one wants to give an inch. A bit of balance and compromise will win the day.
If you’re a Taurus and you are into another Taurus, you may notice that you just have this powerful and almost immediate seeming connection- which, is a weird thing for a Taurus. Steadiness is your thing and well, to suddenly have what seems perfect, it can be almost intoxicatingly good. The two of you may well just spoil each other into a coma.
Tauruses are practically famous for being strong willed, but also, loyalty unlike any other. They have a tendency towards truly enjoying the dating process, particularly if there is an element of courting involved. Only very occasionally will they rush into things, but, when locked in, they’re there for keeps. They may also be a bit more possessive of one another than other couples- but, the good thing is: the odds of them cheating on eachother is pretty low. (It can and does happen- but, as a general rule, it shouldn’t.)
Because you’re both Venus signs, you’ll find that though you don’t normally go head over heels in love at first sight: you may in this case. Because you are both incredibly loving, romantic and adore physical intimacy- the chemistry will either be constant and electric, or steady and warm.
One of the downsides of this pairing is that because you both enjoy being pampered- a bit of laziness may pose a problem if one Taurus is doing all the taking. You will want to return each kindness he lays on you in equal measure- and, if he isn’t returning the favor, you might need to have a little talk about that. The odds are actually pretty good he just didn’t realize, because he was enjoying your care in the way only a Taurus knows how. Indulgently.
When the two of you join forces for common dreams and goals- there’s no stopping you. This includes the goals you have for the relationship, and that unsurpassed loyalty will most definitely be an asset. A Taurus/Taurus match has a high level of harmony attached to it, just so long as you two make sure you’re giving as good as you get.
Taurus and Gemini
As I mentioned in my introduction- Taurus and Gemini can be a bit tricky. I happen to know this one all too well, but, just as I made it work: it’s possible you can, too. This is, however, a relationship that must start much more slowly than you, as a Gemini may wish for. This is because though you’ve both got quite a lot to offer each other- it takes time and adjusting to learn how to best compromise and get along together. As a Gemini, you need to allow that Taurus to go slow, and to slow him down a bit if he’s being a little too ‘bull headed’. This is important.
Because as a Gemini, you may be always two minds about everything- this can be pretty frustrating for a Taurus who seeks steadiness. Because he can also be a bit possessive, it might be important to help him let go a little there. This can be accomplished by slowly building the foundation of trust in the relationship first. However, understanding how you’re doing that- or undoing that, first, helps. If you’re thinking he’s a bit of a stick in the mud- the odds are pretty good he finds you to be a little flaky at times. Neither of you are right and this assumption can shoot the relationship in the foot before it begins.
Taurus may seem to want a little more from the relationship than Gemini at first- and this can cause a real problem. However, if both are committed to taking things slow, then the balance can happen- and that trust they both need can be built. You, as a Gemini, will be wonderful for the Taurus- teaching them to be a little less boring and helping them add a little variety to their lives. In return, however, expect to be held to those Taurus standards for stability.
The Taurus male is actually a very simple creature- not in a negative way. He just wants someone he can depend upon, who will be sensual and warm. The awesome thing is, that Gemini mind is adept and a quick study- so, it really doesn’t take much once you recognize what’s needed, to learn to adapt and do exactly that.
Once the trust is established in this relationship, this pairing is excellent for giving plenty of security for both. That allows the Taurus to deepen his trust of the Gemini, and as long as the communication is open and understood, this can be a very happy pair.
Taurus and Cancer
As a Cancer with a Taurus, you will probably find that the both of you have quite a lot in common. You both enjoy the comforts of home and being secure, you want to build a very stable relationship, have nice things, enjoy all those little things in life- but, emotionally, things can be a bit trickier.
Both signs love to nurture others, but the difference comes in in terms of how. A Taurus will see providing things as nurturing, which can leave a Cancer feeling confused and uncertain. A Cancer may be a bit more emotionally expressive and at times, that can overwhelm the Taurus. That isn’t to say that’s a huge problem- it’s really not. Both enjoy spending time together, just puttering around the house and they do tend to have a much better understanding of one another than most.
The one area where this couple might find a problem is in how issues are addressed. A Taurus male, inclined to having his own way- might not be all that keen on Cancer closing up instead of going along with him. However, if you, as a Cancer, can communicate the problems that you have or the concerns in a clear way: well, not going to lie, the Taurus might still balk, but the odds of it being resolved become a lot better.
This is also where we get into why it is that just going by the element of the sign alone isn’t a great thing. Taurus is an Earth sign, and as a Cancer, you’d be a water sign. These can be very compatible because they are both very physical, tactile elements. Water has a tendency to helps Earth grow by way of nurturing, whereas Earth can have a stabilizing effect on Water.
On the whole, this pairing can be very steadfast and stable if both parties are willing to meet in the middle and be more mindful of each other's needs. Though you may find this isn’t a great “simply dating” relationship, when it comes to longer term commitments, this can be an excellent match.
Taurus and Leo
Taurus and Leo make a pretty powerful match because they are adept at working with egos. Their needs, wants and desires in a relationship are very similar, they are also very loyal and somewhat possessive lovers- so, on the outset, this match works very well.
Being as they are both very much into all the more physical comforts, they are also on the same wavelength in that. Additionally, they are able to come together very well on the things they agree with- however, the problem comes in when there is a difference of opinion. As a Leo, it can be hard to understand why a Taurus man just will not let go once he’s got his mind set on something. The Taurus, in return may find that Leo is a little domineering for his tastes, and rebel almost on principle.
Their ambition comes across very differently, which can work out very well- while Taurus seeks out more secure, stable settings, Leo prefers fame. This can sometimes lead to things not being so stable, which is a little hard for a Taurus man to handle. However, if they can find a compromise where things are on a bit more even keel, things can be very smooth.
The arguing between these two signs is where things can also be a little problematic because Leo has a tendency to wave the red flag at the bull. This is a fixed sign-fixed sign pairing which means once they’ve made up their minds, you are hard pressed to change that. Again, when it’s something they’ve decided together,
it’s an impressive force- but, when they butt heads it can become brutal and intense.
Neither of these signs is particularly keen on change, either, and this can cause them to get stuck in a sort of self indulgent rut. If the relationship is a good one, it can be a really good one, but that becomes problematic because neither of them will want to give up, even if it’s not a good situation. Still, on the whole, because they will typically really adore one another, this can be a wonderful match that helps them both to appreciate relationships much more.
Taurus and Virgo
If you’re looking for all the stability Virgos tend to seek out, the Taurus man may just be your best bet. This pairing is not the most passionately exciting one, but it can be a very loyal, stable, and longstanding relationship. Both Virgo and Taurus are exceptionally devoted lovers, and they are adept at making use of each other's natural talents. You as a Virgo will be drawn to Taurus’s strong, steady personality whereas he will love how intelligent you are.
This is one of those relationships that may be a little slow going on both sides, but, once it’s locked in- it’s usually for life. Taurus and Virgo tend to have a lot in common and that’s hard to resist. Whereas Taurus tends to be a bit more physical and sensual, Virgo can be more restrained- and this is where some small issues may emerge. Additionally, Virgo’s tendency to over analyze can be problematic- as a Taurus man isn’t usually the most openly expressive.
Because Virgos can be prone to second guessing, this can lead to Taurus feeling a bit criticized for reasons he can’t quite understand. Then, he’ll usually balk and become stubborn, which really can be annoying to the Virgo, so what ends up happening? This big negative feedback loop. This can easily be avoided if both partners are dedicated to not taking themselves quite so seriously. Because they really do have so much in common- they can usually find a middle ground if they do this, and be able to work most things out.
As a Virgo, you can teach your Taurus man to compromise a little, and in return, he can also teach you to be a bit less critical and to open up and ask, rather than assume. If both partners in this pairing allow themselves to be vulnerable with one another, it can help develop a trust that can hardly be broken.
On the whole, with a Virgo and a Taurus in a love relationship, you’ll find that once you two get it together- you really have it all together. Planning things together, and having mutual goals will help to further solidify this bond and make both feel more important to each other.
Taurus and Libra
It’s interesting to note that Libra and Taurus are often considered one of the more fated relationships. That doesn’t necessarily mean hooking up with a Taurus man is going to be the end all be all- it does, however, mean that the relationship can have a profound impact on you both. This is actually a very, very good match and relationships like this have tremendous potential. A very slow starting relationship, it’s one that definitely grows in leaps and bounds: the two people in it can, as well.
Both of these signs are ruled by Venus, and it shows in the way that they both appreciate the finer things. Both will enjoy the arts, music, and are very much into physical pleasure. Both of these signs are known for being romantic, wanting to engage in impressing a potential mate and wanting to be impressed. Unfortunately, this overload of Venus can lead to a lot of laziness, particularly if one partner is just basking in the adoration of the other without returning the favor: so be sure there is a balance there. Make it a sexy, sensual romantic feedback loop!
One area that they differ a great deal on, however, is their ability to make decisions. Taurus has a tendency towards hard, solid choices without much give- whereas Libra sometimes has trouble making up their mind. In this, they can be either a wonderful pairing, meeting in the middle, or they can absolutely drive each other nuts. That’s usually a choice that’s down to both partners, and it’s something to understand going into it. If you’re a Libra, you might have a hard time dealing with the Taurus male’s tendency towards possessiveness, but it’s really a matter of slowly building trust and learning to understand one another. Clear communication can help with that tremendously.
Because this is a blend of both Earth- Taurus, and Air- Libra, this is actually a very motivating relationship. Libra will want to intellectually pick things through, and Taurus will work more with gut instinct. Knowing this, each partner can take the time to realize that these differences actually strengthen the bond, rather than weaken it because it means that the finer details Libra points out are important to the end result the Taurus male wants to see happen.
Taurus and Scorpio
Taurus and Scorpio are quite an intense match- and there’s good reason for this. Scorpio is the sign opposite Taurus in the zodiac- and so, there is an almost magnetic draw in this relationship from the start. This can be both a good thing and a bad thing, really, depending on how you look at it- but one thing is for sure: the chemistry is just nothing short of brilliant. Sparks definitely fly between this couple.
Passion is absolutely the name of this game, and it’s game on as long as the relationship continues. Both signs can be quite possessive at times, not just of the things they have or want- but of those they care about the most. Both carry an intense need for something stable and something that they can trust- however, this manifests very, very differently in the Taurus man than it will in you, Scorpio.
A Taurus male appreciates things that are upright- for him, this means that they are honest and he tends to give the side eye to anything mysterious. Though he’ll find that intoxicating- for him, a Scorpio is a puzzle to figure out, and well, for you- he may seem a little on the needy side as he’ll want you to reassure him quite a bit. For Scorpio, however, that deep love of all things mysterious may prod you into some situations that your Taurus man may not be all that comfortable with. Reassurance on both sides is absolutely needed.
While you as a Scorpio will absolutely adore the tireless way that he indulges in his sensual side, he will be drawn in by your deeply passionate nature. The devotion that can be had here will have both parties in this pairing feeling wonderful but also, a bit scared of losing that. Sometimes, when a Scorpio has something good- the fear of infidelity or loss can be a bit jarring and Taurus’s lack of open emotional communication can be intimidating. Both partners will need to communicate openly and clearly so that their presence in the relationship is reassuring to the other. The lessons you can learn as a couple may be lifelong, even if the relationship is not. This powerful connection can really shine if real intimacy is achieved and both are willing to be open and unabashed about their feelings.
Taurus and Sagittarius
Taurus and Sagittarius is a steamy, intense connection that can be filled with a lot of frisky fun- but may burn too hot and too fast for both partners. Both partners in a pairing such as this have a lot to learn and it can be an amazing experience for them. The problem is, if the Taurus man is a little too stuck in his ways- this can get boring for the Sagittarius who has to be experiencing all sorts of new things on a regular basis.
However, if you, as a Sagittarius can allow yourself to relax and enjoy all the stability that the Taurus male has to offer- you may just find that you teach him a thing or two about fun. It isn’t that they are a boring sort- but, sometimes, those Taurus types just need a little prodding. There are really fewer better at doing that sort of prodding than Sagittarius.
While they do have a remarkably different perspective on life, these two can be amazing for each other if both keep an open mind. You might not think that’s difficult for the expansive Sagittarian in you- however, when things slow down, this fire sign tends to feel a little stifled. Taurus likes to take it slow and steady, which, as an Earth sign, suits them. These differences can cause a lot of stress if the pair doesn’t achieve the balance needed. A little give and take is all that you, as a Sagittarius need to do to keep your Taurus man happy and get him out of his shell a little. With plenty of reassurances towards each other, this match can help both to feel much more secure.
Encouraging your Taurus male to give you a bit of freedom will require that this relationship goes slowly. That can be difficult because as a Sagittarius- you’re ready to open everything up. It’s the Jupiter influence in your sign: ever expansive, growth is what your soul seeks. For Taurus that can be a bit hard to handle, but, as long as you are actively working on building trust, the balance will follow. Then, you can both have the kind of relationship you’ve always dreamed of.
Taurus and Capricorn
Some people believe that the Taurus and Capricorn pairing is a boring one. That’s because when they come together- it’s a very stable, down to earth connection. The big edge they have to everything as a couple is also the thing that can cause some issues: neither is particularly concerned with taking risks unless they know there’s a payoff. Where this causes a bit of a wedge is, the Taurus man is slower to commit or express himself emotionally- whereas the Capricorn is more likely to have some intensity beneath the surface on the emotional front. As a Capricorn, the risk aversion is less emotional and more monetary.
Both of these signs have big ambitions. They will come together and have a very strong mutual appreciation for the strength the other may have- but, Taurus may find that Capricorn is too stern and serious about things. This match brings together a pairing of two very different planetary influences, as well: Venus, for the Taurus and Saturn, for the Capricorn. Saturn energy may seem very cold, and it is a very masculine planetary influence. Venus, on the other hand, is feminine and inviting. For a Capricorn, it can be very frustrating to be with a Taurus male because he may want all those finer things in life- yet, it takes an awful lot to get him up and working on them.
Make no mistake at all- once the Taurus is working towards his goals, there’s very little that will stop him. However, until he does, you, as a Capricorn, might just find yourself wondering, “Excuse me, but who do you think pays for all of that?” as Taurus dreams out loud. That is the biggest issue that the two of you will have- and the hardest to overcome. You may find that your Taurus male just doesn’t seem to have a whole lot of drive and initiative. When you try to prod him into this, he’ll balk and that is something most Capricorns have a hard time stomaching. The back and forth can become an endless cycle of fights if it’s not handled with care from the very start.
The thing about this relationship is that Taurus actually has a lot to teach Capricorn and well, the same can be said of what you have to offer the Taurus. What you, as a Capricorn, sees as laziness is a willingness to relax. While it is true that he may relax a little too much, if you two meet in the middle you’ll find that he helps you to truly recognize how hard you work- and that’s something he appreciates a great deal more than he may express. You, on the other hand, may motivate him into being able to actively seek out the things he wants and needs. Compromise will be everything in this relationship- and in doing so, you’ll both be able to make goals for the future together and reach them. It’s a powerful match.
Taurus and Aquarius
Taurus and Aquarius are another one of what we consider power couples- though at times, you may not think so! They can seriously change up a lot of things, both in their own lives and in the world around them. However, getting the relationship to that point- now, there’s something that may take some doing. You, as an Aquarius may find that the Taurus’s sort of mellow approach to everything is a little bit stifling to that very head-in-the-clouds feeling you have about things. He is very stuck in his ways whereas you, well, you embody change.
Some astrologers have said that this is the ultimate match up in business matters, but it can also be true of a long term relationship. That may seem weird, because you may feel like the two of you just don’t have a whole lot in common- however, the one thing that you do have is the strong desire to succeed. That is where the strength in this pairing lies.
You might find that your relationship is a rocky one at times- fighting like cats and dogs! You are both opinionated and strong in those opinions. Your reactions to the things you feel passionate about and that can be quite problematic. Your Taurus man, when he does get angry, will bull headedly push the issue. You, on the other hand may want to pull back and reflect- he could perceive that as you not caring and things get tense. The best way to handle this is to give each other space when things are a little rough and then, talk them out openly.
Though you as an Aquarius might sometimes feel like the Taurus man is a little bit of a stick in the mud- if you draw on that within you which seeks out something more stable, you’ll realize, this steadfastness of his is a good thing. You can also help to pull him out of his shell a bit, get him to try new things- if you appeal to his love of tangible, physical pleasures.
Aquarius’s lesson for Taurus is that sometimes, everything staying the same isn’t a good thing. You, as an Aquarius, have a natural gift for going with the flow and this can be a tremendously positive thing for the Taurus man to learn. If the two of you do everything in the spirit of a love for one another and respect- you’ll find these lessons are easily learned and you both can be happier long term. Taurus and Pisces
As a Pisces, you probably have quite a lot more to offer a Taurus man than you realize- but rest assured, whether he shows it or not: he knows you do. Remember, this is a man who feels like he deserves the best and nothing less- so, if you’ve caught his eye, there must be something about you. These signs are a fantastic pairing because you both have such interesting but differing approaches to life. He’ll be more practical and grounded, whereas Pisces tends to be more impressionable.
Because Pisces is ruled by Neptune and Taurus by Venus- you’ll find the connection feels almost a little intoxicating at times. Venus and Neptune paired have such an intense feminine sort of idealistic dreams- thinking, feeling, and it can make a wonderful energy between the two of you. The only problem with this is if you are over-idealizing and putting each other up on those pedestals! Remember, such heights you lift one another to make for an awfully long fall back down.
You’ll find that he’s pretty effective at helping to ground you and develop the skills you need to make those dreams of yours a reality- though, at times, you might find him to be a bit stifling. That’s good, though, because, in return for this grounding effect he’s got on you- you can teach him to be more open about his feelings, to be more mindful and understanding.
If you can work with him to help him understand how your processes work- emotionally, and with the goals you have, he can be a tremendous support to you. On his end of things, talking him through those dreams you chase will excite him about the end result as well. Having a Taurus man on your side means no matter how hard it may be: he will work to see that the things you want and need are a reality. It’s just getting him to that point, first that’s a bit hard, because as a Pisces, you really aren’t as assertive as others may be. His demeanor might challenge and change that in you- in a good way, if you let it.
Though the two of you have very different ways of feeling and expressing emotions- these things can compliment your personalities quite well. You will find that this can be a much longer term relationship if you work with understanding that the way he feels things differs a great deal from how you do. That does not mean he doesn’t feel them. You may be able to help him learn to convey those things that stay neatly below the surface over time and in doing so, help forge a strong bond of trust.
How To Steal a Taurus Man’s Heart
I think that we have all seen the wonderful images and heard the stories of those couples that just seem to have been together forever. That elderly couple you see, hand in hand out in the park, or wherever- and they seem so gentle with one another, so warm and caring. You might imagine they’ve been together so long that they instinctively know what one another thinks, feels, and you may hear them finish eachother’s sentences. Understanding that this, at heart, is what the Taurus man longs for can help you understand him a great deal.
Though we all dream of finding that long term love, and remaining in love- it’s hard to know where relationships will lead and we often find ourselves asking tough questions. Is there going to be a second date? Will he ask me to marry him? Will this be everything I have ever hoped it could be?
Sometimes, what Taurus men just do not understand is that worrying like that tends to steal away the joy that exists in the moment. Those little moments we witness in the couples that have been together long term- those are created over years and sometimes decades of moments all just tied together to create that lasting joy.
Patience is definitely a virtue
While it can be very frustrating initially trying to get his attention, it’s even more so waiting on him to decide you are the one. Once he does get there, though, you won’t have to worry about him cheating or stepping out on you- loyalty is most definitely one of their biggest assets. Once he’s decided that you’re the one for him- that’s it.
Because Taurus men have an incredibly deep level of respect for commitment, he’ll work tirelessly to help not only build a relationship with you, but to help it grow and continue being the best it can be. Relationships are important to Taurus men because they bring about the closeness and consistency in life they crave.
Of course, in the beginning, it’ll be a little confusing and unclear because they aren’t really ones to give their affections lightly- nor are they particularly keen on one night stands or sort of shallow affairs. Once he’s decided on you, he’s locked in, and he’ll expect exactly the same from you. Any infidelity, and you’ll find the relationship ends much, much quicker than it began. While he may not give up on someone easily purely for the small things: infidelity is a big thing to him and he won’t take even the hint of it lightly.
Slowness isn’t always a bad thing
While the emotional expressions and words may be slow, so, too is the way that he loves, physically. A Taurus man will want to take his time with affection, not necessarily in giving it, but rather, how it is given. These Venus ruled men tend to be the ultimate in the long, slow tease, and they delight in it.
Being as he is very much into slowly taking his time to not only seduce, but in the act of loving- foreplay is a must. Not only that, you will need to give every bit as you get: even if he says he doesn’t need you to. Trust me, he’s just trying to play the aloof male, there. He wants you to spoil him in exactly the same measure that he is spoiling you.
There are much worse things to keep tabs on, though, right? Nothing quite like that sexy, sensual feedback loop- and I think in this case, this is one time when his slowness will definitely not frustrate you. Well, for too long, anyway. As a bit of a bedroom hint, here, if you feel like letting fly with the occasional impassioned moan, sign, or whimper- do so. Taurus men love nothing more than having all of their senses stimulated and nothing gets them going hotter than hearing someone letting go with the pleasure they inspired!
Sure, there are some men out there who just adore the unpredictability that can sometimes come of relationships- your Taurus man is not one of those men. He wants to know what he can expect at all times, be it in his life, career, and in his love life. His goals will almost inevitably be centered around building a home, having that one true love and in general, keeping life nice and comfortable. He will work very hard to those ends, and he’ll expect that you do so right alongside- so, when you’re just dating, he’ll be watching for the signs that show you are exactly the partner he needs.
The Five Keys To Progressing in A Relationship With a Taurus Man
Drop The Expectations
This one is often easier said than done. Everyone wants that stroll down the aisle and well, with a Taurus man, that can happen. However, it can only happen if you find a way to root your relationship in understanding that there are unexpected cross- roads, choices, and bliss that lie within the chaos of our day to day lives. Helping your Taurus man to understand this by showing him that in the moment- you are with him and the reality, the here and now, is every bit as beautiful as any fantastic dream of the future you may have.
Indulge in one another
While it’s true you might find that our day to day lives often make it difficult for a little one on one alone time: put the phones away, stop worrying about the other things in your lives, and just be together. Whether it’s a little Netflix and Chill, just enjoying a conversation about something you both love and listening to one another, taking a walk, taking a bath together- make sure he knows he’s the priority for you in that moment with no distraction.
Help him learn to adapt
Taurus men can be just a little rigid about their routines- and that isn’t always a good thing. Helping him to relax and learn to enjoy things as they come, or take things as they come, will show him that you offer that secure support he’s been seeking. If you’ve got a little planned ideal of how things need to go- throw it out, and instead, begin to develop an adaptability of your own. You’ll find that he can in fact, come out of that comfort zone- and by your example, even learn to like going with the flow and not having to do the same things, all the time. Acceptance of the journey together is everything- and will help you both learn to love in the moment.
Make every day together a celebration
I know that we all look forward to things like Valentine’s Day, our birthdays, anniversaries- these special dates often help us reflect on how special we are, and how those we love are. However, what if I told you that you could do that every day? Why wouldn’t you do that?
The Taurus way of things is that appreciation for things like beauty and softness, appreciation for the love that you have- well, he believes that needs to be an every day thing. If you’ve got one of those Taurus men that seems to always forget those dates: perhaps it’s time to understand that because he truly does appreciate you all the time, sometimes, he forgets what a big deal those events can be will help. More than that, though- if you actively work to make sure that each and every day together you are openly expressing your own appreciation and feeling for him? He’ll get with the program in time. Be patient. The Taurus man is notoriously slow to act on these kinds of things, but, if you express to him how important that is to you- and mirror what you’d like to see reflected in him, the growth will be remarkable.
This one’s a hard one for Tauruses, as they tend to hold onto the things that have hurt them. However, in order to help him learn to let go of those grudges- you have to do the same thing yourself. There’s no point in settling in for a pattern of resentment- and dwelling in the past, on the past mistakes will only hurt you both. Because a Taurus male doesn’t tend to give up and lives in routines, it can easily become a pattern if you don’t break it. Once you do, he will follow suit as well, but it may take time. Don’t worry, he’ll work as hard at letting go of the hurt as he does everything else once he’s moving on it.
The Quick and Dirty on Taurus Men
Now, as we wrap this up, I want you to consider just a moment, the symbolism in “The Bull”. You imagine seeing green pastures, with this placid, big eyed beast grazing comfortably. And he won’t budge. Nope. You could call and call from the fence, showing that the grass is greener on your side all you want- but, he’s happy to be where he’s been, with what he already knows is a steady supply of the things he enjoys, and you may well take that all for granted, in a way.
But there’s another side of things. If you have ever seen those bull runs in Pamplona, or a bull fight- you know, this isn’t a beast that is always quite so mellow. Rather fortunately, those events are rare, both for actual bulls and for people who dig Taurus men. However, consider something else and consider it well before you imagine this is the best way to see fire and passion. It’s really not. Because just like those who deliberately anger the real bulls- you’ll get gored, he’ll run off, and forget he ever had anything to do with you. So, avoid the games at all costs. Just know that there’s a side of him that he doesn’t often bring out- but, when he does, it is something fierce.
Understand- your man is actually a goddess.
That may be a weird way to think about it, but Taurus men (And women) are the ultimate in Earth Goddess archetypes. They tend to be monogamous, they are sensual as all get out, earthy, primal and strong. They also, however, may become quite stoic and apathetic if their needs aren’t being met. They like knowing where things are going, because, well, getting them going is hard- but, once they’re moving, they are single minded and serious. They also won’t stop. If you change up the goals, you may find that your Taurus begins to wonder just how loyal you are. That’s problematic because they believe in possessing someone. Not necessarily in the way I warned you about in a previous chapter- but, a life long commitment to being responsible for another person’s well being. They expect this in return.
One of the biggest drawbacks any Taurus will tell you- if you ever get them to open up to that level of vulnerability- is that they really do feel it’s a lifetime commitment. Meaning, there is no escape clause written on their heart. Sometimes, this can manifest itself in a Taurus staying in a relationship that’s actually hurting them- partially due to being locked into a comfort zone, partially due to not wanting to give up. However, other times it comes out as a nearly needy, sort of clinginess that is a big put off for many if they’re unaware of why that behavior is there.
You have to be able to help a Taurus man understand that giving love wings is the best way to know that it’s the right thing. Once they understand that love is meant to be freeing, that they need to give their partners room to breathe: they are very nearly, the perfect partner for long term relationships. It takes them time to learn, and it takes a lot of compromise and practice, but it’s worth the effort.
These men won’t move very fast, and they don’t really do the whole whirlwind romance thing. It’s just not their way and if that’s what you’re hoping for- you may want to find another sign. Try an Aries or a Scorpio. Frankly, though, you have to understand that your patience is well rewarded in a Taurus man. They want to make sure that they can be sure of things- that’s all they are doing and a long, drawn out courtship is almost a definite. Enjoy it! Allow him to take care of you, to spoil you and do the same in return. Some things, well, they’re just too good to rush and this is a great way to build the trust you both need for a healthy relationship.
The Taurus Wrap Up
First Date Dos and Don’ts
One thing I can tell you from frustrating experience with a Taurus man is that they aren’t the most punctual type. Nor are they inclined to do something on the spur of the moment. If you want to spare yourself some headaches- make sure you plan this date in advance, by at least a few days. Similarly, don’t be fickle. If you book a date with a Taurus man, make sure you show up. They cannot stand being stood up and canceling at the last minute is usually a bit of a turn off.
When you’re going through your closet to think of what to wear on that date: first of all, make sure you know what the venue is. You show up wearing a silk dress for a hike and this practical man probably won’t take you very seriously. However, if it’s something a little less outdoorsy or the like and you’re wondering, “Should I go sexy with this?” Think about what they’re into. If it feels good to the touch, he’ll probably like it. If it’s overly sexy, or a bit too flashy, that may not be his cup of tea, but if it feels good to the touch- it’s probably a good choice.
How To Talk Taurus
Taurus men tend to fixate on the past. Whether it’s history or their own lives, they just enjoy looking backwards. Nostalgia is a big thing for them, sometimes, in the worst way. You may or you may not hear about the exes, but you’ll certainly hear about their pasts. His talking about his exes, by the way, in no way means he’s still in love. This is just what they do, and often, it may be much rosier when he tells it than it actually was. If he is talking about the more negative aspects of his prior relationships- look out! He is warning you. Heed that warning.
He is a man who will actually enjoy hearing you tell him about your past. Don’t ruminate on the ex too much, but he probably won’t mind an anecdote here and there. What he will enjoy, however, are stories about your family, your childhood, and your experiences. In addition to this, things you find fascinating, particularly if they involve history will appeal.
Taurus Men In Relationships
You will find that your Taurus man has a bit of a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde thing going. It can be incredibly confusing at times. He’s going to be a very sensual sort, but, also a very careful man who doesn’t move quickly. Once he has decided what he wants, however, you’ll find that there is no stopping him and he is a very, very different person than the careful man you knew during the early months.
Getting Started With Your Taurus Man
If you’re new to the Taurus dating ritual, well, welcome. Strap in. This is going to be a weird ride for you. He may seem to take things so slowly that you think he is uninterested- but, don’t give up if he’s still coming around. He will take it very slowly in letting you know how he feels, because he wants to be certain that his feelings are real, but more than that, that yours are. The upshot of this is, when he says he wants a committed relationship with you- he means it.
Now, there are two types of Taurus men when it comes to intimacy. The first, well, he may well jump into bed from the word go. They do love their sex, all of them. With this one, do not mistake sensuality with intimacy- you’ll find yourself in trouble with that one. If he is serious, you will know, because he will tell you: and if he hasn’t yet, that doesn’t mean he won’t or that he’s simply using you. Again, if you refer back to a previous chapter, there are ways to tell the difference with Taurus men. Once you’ve unlocked that code, it’s easy to tell.
The second type will take physical intimacy mind-numbingly, frustratingly slow. This is also a good thing, because for him, he is making sure that this is a solid emotional relationship before he connects physically.
Taking it From Friendship To Romance
People who have actually been friends with a Taurus man for a while get thrown for a loop. Every time. Because, well, you look at all the above and you think, “Okay, this could go slowly.” But the thing is, in his mind- you two have already been proving your commitment to one another on a friendship level. It’s for this reason, I almost always recommend you accept friendship without expectation, first. If the friendship has been solid, you’ll find that his transition from friend to lover is so fast it’ll make your head spin!
How It Can Be
Taurus men tend to be a bit more sentimental than your average Joe. They love all things traditional, and they’ll want to know everything about you, if you’ve caught their attention. He will likely be asking you about your childhood, your belief systems, your thoughts and ideas on many things- if it seems a little like an interview at times, it is. That’s a good thing.
He may also be a bit of a sucker for history and nostalgia, so that’s something you can use to appeal to him as well. Anything that reminds him of good times, of things he admires, of happy memories- he will appreciate that.
You must understand that your Taurus man is generally going to be a family man. If you find yourself feeling like you are coming in second to his mother, his father, or other relatives: you likely are. For a while, that will be the norm, until he is satisfied that you understand and respect his commitment to them. Of course, that won’t hold true of the Taurus man that has fallen out with his family- but, it’s something worth mentioning. Try not to worry, once it’s your turn, he will be very much into creating new family traditions with you.
Another thing to understand is that to the Taurus man, his home is not really his castle. It’s more like his den, his refuge from the world, and where he hides away. If he wants to hide you away there, too- well, this is a great sign. It’s also a powerful aphrodisiac: nothing a Taurus man notices and appreciates more than comfortable, clean, and nice smelling surroundings paired with a home cooked meal.
Long Term Love and The Taurus Man
Financial stability and family are two things that the Taurus man highly values. These things are often interconnected, but for him, they are intrinsically linked as a part of his overall being. They are tremendously motivating factors in how he does things and in his overall long term goals. If he seems a bit on the penny pinching side for a while, you might consider what it is he’s saving money for, and what he’s working on. These things are important to him and they should be important to you, as well. He isn’t cheap, he’s smart.
Commitment is key for a Taurus man in love, and he will try to work things out when there is conflict. Though game playing is an almost sure fire shut down- anything else and he will work very hard to try to heal a broken relationship. You’ll find that if you do break up, it isn’t as simple as just ending it. When there are struggles, he will continue to try to work on things, as much as he can until he just can’t anymore. Many people who have been in relationships with Taurus men will tell you: there’s almost never one break up. There may be more than one before the clean break is had. So, if that happens to you- don’t lose heart, but do commit yourself to resolving those issues.
How To Get That Taurus Into Bed
Cook for him. I’m not kidding, this will work almost every time. Well, if you’re good at it, it will. If you invite him over to a candlelit dinner in a clean, comfortable home, the food is wonderful, you’re wearing something he can run his hands over and some nice scent- they tend to go for that. As in, prying him off your leg with a crowbar levels of go for that.
What you cook will depend a great deal on the man himself. They appreciate more traditional fare, bonus points if it’s “Gramma’s recipe”. If you happen to know his family recipes, in any stripe, you’ll see a much, much more assertive side to this normally docile, passive man. I don’t really recommend making haggis if he’s a Scotsman, but, that’s the idea. (Hardly anyone likes haggis!) If he’s mentioned a recipe he particularly likes in conversation, making it for him is always a win.
Here’s the other thing, it probably will not happen on that first date. Like I said, before, if you happen to get one of those sexually indulgent Taurus men- it may, but usually not. He may
however, be touching you so much that you need a cold shower after the fact. This is just what they do. Enjoy the cuddling, because there are very few signs better at it than a Taurus.
That’s an important point to consider because if you are a bit more sexually aggressive, he may not respond well to it. If you make your seduction slow, steady, and sensual- that may be a good way to be true to your own desire, but also, appeal to his sensibilities.
What Are They Like In Bed?
There’s no real answer to this one, because every man is different, signs aside. However, in general, Taurus lovers are slow, deliberate, there’s a lot of touching. They are the masters of the tease- though they don’t mean to be, usually. They’re just enjoying the lead up. But you'll learn more about your Taurus in bed in my Sextrology book.
Putting It All Together
If you understand the planet that rules your Taurus male, you’ll be ahead of the game by leaps and bounds. Venus represents a lover as mythos- an archetype. For him, finding a lover he can trust is as important as having that lover trust him. He can be the most patient, gentle, and honest soul you’ve ever known, and someone who is grounded in reality- but the big weakness to this strong man is the fact that without emotional stability, he just won’t be very happy.
The reason they don’t fall in love with just anyone, or very quickly, is that they want to take their time with things. They want to enjoy each and every step of the way. Being able to court a lover, being able to stoke the fires of anticipation, these are fun for Taurus men- but more than that, they are a protective measure that helps him to be sure that his feelings are real and that yours are, too. While you might think he’s not one to take a risk- you’d be wrong. He’d take big risks if he was sure of how he feels- and there is no greater compliment than a Taurus male going out on a limb for you and showing his heart.
Once he is with you, you’ll find that he has a tendency to show a lot of affection and his sensuality can really come through. He enjoys spoiling his partners and that tends to be a point of pride- when he can’t, he becomes a bit sullen and might fall into sort of depressive episodes, in fact. A bull with a dinged up pride is very much a sad thing, and it can often cause them to sort of resort to a prideful “I don’t care about all that stuff anyway” but it’s a lot of bluster. If you reassure him, it can help a bit, but, until he’s back in a position where he can do things his way, he may be a bit on the grouchy side.
One thing that you should remember- and this is important, for him, his relationships will likely all have some sort of underlying practical basis. Odds are, he isn’t using you, though sometimes, he might get a little ahead of himself and it can seem so. Take the time to clarify. Taurus males are notoriously ambitious once they get going and they tend to work best as the supportive role when a partner has a career he or she loves. Because they are very tactile people, they are hands on and will make sure that things succeed- by any means they can.
However, if you’re thinking that once the two of you are married- it’ll all be bliss and contentment forever and ever- you might be in for a bit of a shock. A Taurus male can get angry, just like anyone else. Sometimes, it may seem worse than other people- because, well, when you have a strongly calm, seemingly zen as all get out fella, and he gets mad, the fireworks will happen. What can turn his still waters into a choppy, stormy sea? Oh, jealousy. There’s a reason that I have repeatedly emphasized that you do not make your Taurus jealous. Because it is not a good thing. There are a few signs for which jealousy is a sort of aphrodisiac- but for Taurus, it’s very much not. For him, rather unfortunately- when he loves, he possesses. Now, of course, as I also mentioned, there’s a level of that which is healthy- but, there’s a level of that which is not. He wants your total loyalty- and he’ll give it in return.
Another one of the more challenging factors to loving your Taurus man is that they tend to be somewhat self indulgent- and very, very stubborn. They’re definitely the type that will cut off their nose to spite their face- though good luck telling them that.
It’s funny how simple we seem to feel they are- when in fact, they can be some of the most complicated men you’ve ever been with. However, on the whole, most Taurus men will be well worth the trouble- if you are looking for a relationship based on loyalty, friendship, warmth and passion- you’ll find they have all that and then some.
Now, I know that relationships don’t always go as planned, which is why this is not all I have to share with you about the Taurus man. If you’ve had him and lost him, whatever the reason, there may be a way to mend your broken relationship, and you can find the secrets to doing so in my bonus book How To Get A Taurus Man Back.
This, along with the other special bonus books included in the Taurus Man Secrets series, will help you to become even more in- tuned with your own Taurus man and give you the knowledge and he tools you need to handle anything that comes up in your relationship.
I wish you all the very best in life and love, and I always love to hear from my readers, so please, never hesitate to be in touch if you’ve got questions about things we didn’t cover.
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