Decoding the Sexual Secrets of the Aquarius Man

If you’ve already read through the other books in this series all about the Aquarius man, you've probably got a pretty good idea of what these guys are all about. The one thing we haven't really looked at in depth yet, however, is that little three letter word we’re all thinking about Sex.

Well, rest easy because this book is dedicated entirely to decoding the secrets to understanding the Sextrology of your Aquarius man. The information here will equip you with all you need to really make an impression on that hot Aquarius guy in your life!

What is “Sextrology”?

You’ve probably guessed it by now, but Sextrology is a unique branch of astrology that helps you learn about more than just someone’s basic personality traits. With Sextrology you can actually uncover the secret desires of your partner by looking at some very specific points in their chart, which we will be learning about in the pages to come.

We’ve all had those moments where you realize you’re getting close to getting it on with someone new and suddenly wish you knew a little more about what they liked, how they liked it, when they liked it, and so on.

Lucky for you, I’ve outlined pretty much everything you could ever want to know about your Aquarius guy, down to favorite his positions and times of day he likes to get down and dirty. And I must say, this has been a very revealing book to write! Before we get into all the juicy details, I want to take a moment to explain how sexual astrology works.

We’ve already explored the basics of astrology, the ways you can use the stars to map out your relationship success, learn how to communicate with your Aquarian man, and how to tell how compatible the two of you are based on your Sun signs.

We’ve gone over the basic rules of synastry readings and even how well Aquarian men relate to each individual sign in the Zodiac, making you something of an Aquarius man expert by now.

I won’t go into all of those details again here, but if you haven’t yet read the other parts of this series on Aquarian men, you may want to look over that later.

Sextrology is very much the same as regular Astrology, we are just looking at some different points in your, or your Aquarian man’s, chart to gather the info that we need to get a little deeper into his headspace.

The main focus in Sextrology are the planets and other celestial energies that govern our passions, desires, sexual drives and our deepest needs.

To determine this we pay close attention to Mars, Venus, Pluto, and the asteroid Eros, as well as the 5th, 7th and 8th houses in the chart we’re exploring.

There are, of course, other things to consider, but these are the most applicable to what we’re learning about today.

A Bit of History on How Sexual Astrology Came About

So what can all of these things show us about a person’s sexual desires and preferences? Well, I’ll tell you:

First off, Mars is a fiery planet that we associate with passion, virility, sexual drive, lust and desire. Where Mars is located in your chart shows how you go about pursuing your desires and what really lights your fires, so to speak.

Mars is linked to the ancient Roman god of war, so naturally the sign placement of Mars in your chart tells a lot about your disposition for expressing fiery passion, your competitive side and in what ways you get out your aggression, but that doesn’t really apply here-unless, of course, you are into that kinda thing. Which, actually, your astrology chart can show! ...And you thought all those things were secret.

Anyway, second we look at the lovely Venus. Venus was known as the ancient Roman goddess of beauty, love, fertility, seduction, pleasure and Victory. This is the softer side of our sexual appetite and her placement in your chart shows how you love, how you seduce, what types of lovers you attract, and who you are attracted to.

Venus is also linked to the Greek goddess Aphrodite, who shared the same attributes in Greek history. If you get into the Greek and Roman backgrounds of astrology, you’ll find that there are a lot of similarities between the different gods and goddesses that we connect with the modern astrological archetypes used to describe the planets used. It can be very enlightening and I really recommend exploring this side of astrology if you want to gain a true understanding of what it all means and how everything works together.-

Once you know how to interpret and blend these two energies together, based on their placement in your Aquarius man’s chart, it becomes easier to decode his sexual drives and desires.

The sign these planets are in reveals his attitude toward sex and how he fulfills his desires, and can even give insight as to how you can improve all of your sexual experiences.

Pluto

Pluto’s role in how you embrace your sexuality is more revealing of your darker side. This isn’t really surprising considering Pluto is the modern ruler of Scorpio, the sign we most closely associate with secret desires and taboo topics.

When we look at Pluto, we find where you are the most primal in your sexual appetite. Pluto works to help you transform yourself, often referred to as a representation of the phoenix rising from the ashes. Pluto plays many roles in astrology and is an indication of where you place the most importance when it comes to discovery and growth, in general.

Pluto is associated with life and death, birth and regrowth, and can show where you draw your sexual power from.

Connections between Pluto and Venus or Pluto and Mars can be very powerful indications of a sexual bond that transcends basic desire and takes your sexual experiences to a place of spiritual connection.

Eros

Another important point to investigate in your chart is the Eros. Eros is not a planet per se, but an asteroid that lies between Venus and Mars in your natal chart.

The reason that Eros is so important is because this asteroid reveals your most primal, erotic desires. Some say Eros shows the true erotic desires of our soul, so you can see how being privy to where Eros is in your partner’s chart can be an integral key to taking things to a whole new level of intimacy.

In mythology, Eros is the Greek god of erotic love, and his placement in the natal chart reveals your soul’s erotic desires. Some say that he was born of chaos, while others state him to be the son of Aphrodite.

Unlike the usual planets in a chart, which can have different specific meanings based upon their degree of placement, Eros is depicted only as to what sign in your chart he is found. More than just offering insight into how you experience passion and “get there,” this little asteroid can actually help you to become a better lover when you investigate its whereabouts in your partner’s chart. We’ll explore this further in just a bit.

When you get a Sextrology reading for you and your partner, whether you cast the chart yourself or confer with an astrologer like me, you can quite literally walk away with an instruction guide to giving your partner what his or her soul is yearning for.

Not only that, you can also find the best way to reveal to your partner what will drive you wild. Trust me, once your partner sees what you can do with your newfound knowledge they’ll be more than happy to try your new stuff, too. Aspects made to other planets and the houses where your Mars and Venus fall act as an indication of where these energies are most prevalent in your life and where you can make the very most of them.

For example, the houses I mentioned earlier, the 5th, 7th and 8th, are the most important to look at when you are going through your Sextrology chart. These are the areas in your stars that show where you love, flirt, have fun, what kind of partner you are best suited to link up with, and at what points in your life you approach sex and those primal urges that can’t be denied.

So, when you take all this info and combine yours and your Aquarian man’s charts, you can easily explore the areas in your stars that show what you both need in order to achieve the highest levels of satisfaction.

You’ll be armed with enough knowledge to almost guarantee you will hit the big “O” and have a sexual experience you’ll never forget.

Understanding the Sexual Side of the Aquarius Man

Now that you have a little more info on how you can utilize Astrology to have the best sex of your life, let’s take a look at the sexual side Aquarius man.

Born between January 20-February 19, Aquarius is the most open minded and progressive thinking sign in the Zodiac. Aquarians are youthful, fun loving men who love to explore new and inventive ways to live life to the fullest.

This includes exploring new and inventive ways to explore their sexuality, making this guy a blast to get down and dirty with.

Now, as I just explained, certain planetary placements in your Aquarius man’s chart will play a part in how he likes to go about getting his freak on, and we will explore some of the different placements a bit later in this book. First, let’s explore the general demeanor of the Aquarius man and what really turns him on.

When you connect with an Aquarian man on an intimate level it is sure to be an adventure. He likes to have a good time and isn’t afraid to venture into new erotic territory.

These adventures can range from toys and dress up to anything your mind can imagine, really. It’s nearly impossible to list all of the things that can rev his engine because he’s apt to be down to try whatever you suggest or stumble upon. Not one to really shy away from new experiences, this guy is down for whatever, if you are to that point, of course.

Now, I am not insinuating that Aquarian men are promiscuous man-whores or anything, quite the opposite, actually. He’s an intellectual and doesn’t sleep around for the sake of doing the deed. You truly have to get into his head before you can get into his bed, and that by itself can pose a challenge if all you are looking for is a good time.-Just wanted to clear that up before we went any further.

The Aquarius man is cool and detached, and he can come across as being a really fickle kind of guy. He may seem really into you one moment and totally disinterested the next.

Often this happens when he realizes that you are thinking it’s relationship time and he disappears into the sunset, off to find a new adventure or save the world or something. He’s not one to settle down, and really, he’s not too much into serious relationships unless he finds someone who is truly special to him. You’ve got to build a friendship with him before you can even think about jumping his bones, actually. Once you get there, though, wow!

Aquarius is ruled by Uranus, the weird blue planet of chaos and change, making your Aquarian guy a ball of chaotic brilliance. He’s a humanitarian, a friend to everyone, and sort of like a superhero in some ways.

He’s a definite catch, but a catch that’s almost impossible to pin down. He loves intensity, fresh and exciting experiences, and intellectual conversations with a counterpart who can keep up and keep him engaged are one thing that can really turn him on. Being that he is so fiercely independent and likes his personal space, it makes the intimate times you have with him all the more meaningful. Don’t go looking to him for emotional stability right out of the gate, though, or you’ll likely be left with hurt feelings.

So, who has the best chance of getting the full Aquarian man experience? Well, your level of personal intensity is a big factor in whether or not you’ll be able to get him to slow down and give you the chance to pique his interest. He’s attracted to the weird, the different and the unique. The more traditional you are in trying to get his attention, the less he will see you.

There’s got to be a spark of something magical and intense, or something that feels magical and intense in the moment. The moment can be bumping into one another in a book store, at a social function, having dinner with mutual friends, or just walking down the street and catching each other's eye.

If you already have an Aquarian guy in mind that you want to get the attention of, don’t worry, there are ways to get his attention, but it isn’t going to happen if you are just another face in the crowd doing the same thing as all the other faces in the crowd.

The Aquarian man isn’t totally opposed to having friends with benefits, so that’s an option that could be on the table if you’re into that kind of thing.

The most important thing to build on is showing him you’re someone he can be friends with, so the word “friend” in friends with benefits actually is important here. An Aquarian guy can easily hang out after whatever happens “happens” in a friend capacity and not bat an eyelash, as long as you don’t make things weird or pressure him for a relationship.

It’s not uncommon for an Aquarian man to seem completely enchanted with you one moment and totally distracted the next. Don’t take it personally, especially if you are only at the friends with benefits level. He isn’t comfortable with emotional displays, in fact, emotions make him kind of uncomfortable. Yours, his, everyones, he just doesn’t know how to handle emotionally charged situations, so you’ll definitely want to avoid injecting emotion into your playtime.

It can be particularly difficult to understand his sexual side because, really, sex isn’t all that important to the Aquarian man. Of course he enjoys it, and like I said, once you get to that point with him it’s an amazing experience, but sex isn’t what drives him. Before he will be sexually stimulated there's got to be an intellectual component to the attraction.

What He Likes

Aquarian men are generous and eager to please. Anything he does he wants it to be worth doing, and that includes you.

The Aquarian man wants to know that you are more than just a gorgeous body, you’ve gotta have brains and not be afraid to show them. He wants your mind and your spirit, your body is simply a bonus, and a pretty awesome one at that.

He likes his partner to be someone open minded and willing to explore new things. Foreplay is a must with these guys and can go on for quite a while. This is especially true if you are new to one another, or if the sex between you is something new.When you suggest different things he will be happy to oblige, but it may actually take you bring the initiator for him to become totally at ease with the whole situation.

You see, he’s loving it, he’s having a GREAT time, but inherently these guys are shy. Depending on the specific personality of your Aquarius man you may have to get things started on this front.

The Aquarian man really digs different positions. The old boring missionary position every time will simply not work for him. Even after he's become comfortable with initiating things and you guys are on the same level, he still really digs it when you come out and suggest a new position you want to try. Don’t know any? That’s easy, just talk to friends or look up fun sex positions online. You’ll have no problem finding what you’re looking for, I promise.

Bringing toys into he bedroom is another thing that will totally win the Aquarian man over. For instance, say you suggest the two of you try out your vibrator during foreplay; he will love seeing you writhing with pleasure while he pleasures you, or while you pleasure yourself. Whatever you want to do-I mean, it’s up to you. The more you get into it the more he’s going to love it.

Dressing up in sexy attire can also score you some major sexy points with the Aquarius man. He’s used to seeing you in your normal look, so when you pop in with a wig or a costume, or both, it’s sure to ignite his fires.

You can bet you won’t be wearing the costume for long. He may want you to leave the wig on, though, because, you know, it’s something different.

Threesomes are not for everyone, but if you are into that kind of thing, the odds are great that he’ll be into it too. Aquarians love to be in groups of people whose company they enjoy, so it only makes sense that if you all agree and the timing is right things could get hot and heavy when you invite a third party into your bed.

This is something to do with caution, of course, as there is always a possibility for hurt feelings and mixed emotions after all is said and done. Not so much for the Aquarian man, he can come out of it unscathed, but if either you or the other person you invite gets any feelings that aren’t reciprocated by him things could get a little weird. And not the good kind of weird, the weird kind of weird.

Having sex someplace other than the bedroom is another turn-on for the Aquarius man. The excitement of potentially getting caught or just the visual of being in a different environment than where you normally get it on is sure to send his passion meter through the roof. If it’s your first time together and you suggest someplace exciting you are almost certain to have him again. Now that he knows you are kind of a freak and not afraid to up the ante when it comes to where you do your thing, he will be left curious of what other avenues you might be down to explore.

As far as the time of day the Aquarius man likes to get it on, any time is the answer. As long as it isn't pre-planned, he’s down to get dirty. In fact, the more sporadic the better!

So, now you get the general idea about what the Aquarius man likes in the sack. Anything that is separate from the norm is sure to at least make him think twice. Diversity is the key here, so put your thinking cap on and invite a little sexual excitement in your life with your sexy Aquarian guy!

What He Doesn’t Like So Much

For the Aquarius man, routine and schedules are just the worst. If you are in a relationship with one of these guys (because it does happen) never ever suggest that you schedule sex.

It doesn’t matter how busy your personal schedules are, if you have to pencil in sex it will quickly seem like much less fun to him.

Repetitive experiences are a big turnoff for the Aquarius man, and this goes for just about every aspect of his life, not just what the two of you do behind closed doors.

Things that are particularly vulgar are also a turnoff for him. He’s into experimentation and exploring his sexuality, but there are some things that he will very likely draw the line at. I won’t go into them now, but you see where I’m going with this.

Doing something like dropping those three big words on him during sex can go terribly wrong if he’s not expecting it, and it can be even worse when he doesn’t reciprocate.

If you’ve been dating, but things aren’t serious, or if you’ve been doing the friends with benefits thing but you’ve caught a nasty case of the feels, saying, “I love you,” because you’re just that wrapped up in the moment is sure to bring an abrupt and awkward end to what you were just enjoying so much. Easy solutionDon’t do this during your sexy time unless you know he feels the same way.

If you haven’t had many experiences of your own it may make him feel awkward being the first you’ve done (insert experience) with. I mean, if you have only done missionary and he’s having to coach you through everything that’s “different,” he may become disenchanted with the situation and lose interest. This is not true of all Aquarian men, and will depend on other factors in his chart

How to Seduce the Aquarius Man

Now that you know some of the things he likes and dislikes, let’s take a look at some proven seduction techniques to entice your Aquarius man.

Show Confidence and Enthusiasm

Being generally enthusiastic about life and where you are headed is something that the Aquarius man finds sexy. He likes that fact that you are happy and confident about your life, and enthusiasm can be interpreted as a sign of personal success.

The more confident and excited you are to see what tomorrow brings, the more he is going to really dig your energy. Using your intellect is a must when you converse with him, so avoid conversations about flighty subjects. Once you get some face time with him, you can wow him with your natural seductive ways and if there’s chemistry things will likely escalate to the physical level.

Play Hard to Get

Playing hard to get can yield amazing results if you have already caught his eye. He knows that he is amazing, in fact, he may even unintentionally seem a bit arrogant. Sometimes these guys can be shy, but they do have a tendency to be fully aware of their awesomeness, so fawning all over him will just seem somehow redundant.

When he’s interested and you play hard to get, the chase becomes a challenge-The Aquarian man loves a challenge and will gladly accept. Be flirty, make eyes at him, and engage in conversations with him where can see how clever and witty you are.

Keep your distance when it comes to any romantic advances for a while and let the curiosity and desire build up within him.

The key to not blowing this is to not play hard to get for too long. This can be a slippery slope, but with the right timing on your part can yield amazing results.

Leaving him hanging for too long could cause him to just lose interest and move on to another potential mate, or any other thing that catches his eye. The Aquarian man doesn’t need a relationship, but if the right person comes along, and things work out in the moment, he won’t ignore the gifts that the Universe offers him. You could be that gift.

Find a Reason to Dress Up in Something Out of The Norm

Inviting him to join you at fun and interesting events can give you the opportunity for some face time where you can let your inner seductress out.

Something like a Halloween party or a gala where you get to dress fancy, or different from the norm you are both used to, can be a wonderful opportunity to make him want you bad. I know, I know, Halloween is a seasonal thing, BUT should the situation present itself and you can get him to accompany you to an event where you can wear something classy and sexy that has a mask involved, you can almost consider him yours before you even get there.

Aquarians love seeing people in a different light, it changes their perception slightly and allows them to see you through a unique lens. This is ideal if you feel like you’ve been friend-zoned and can’t seem to get out. There’s got to be chemistry, of course, but if you make it that far, chances are the chemistry is there. Plus, Halloween parties and formal wear events can be a blast, so it’s kind of a win-win.

Rub Him The Right Way

Aquarius rules the calves and the circulatory system, so if you have the chance to give him a nice calf and ankle massage he will very likely be putty in your hands.

Once he realizes how wonderful and relaxed he's feeling you can massage other parts of his body, too. After a little while of doing this he will be all revved up and ready to go, and bonus, you’ll probably get a relaxing massage also. Another win-win.

Do Something With Him That Isn’t Seductive at All

Physical intimacy is not the most important part of the relationship you have with an Aquarian man. He loves it, but there are other things about you that he would just as soon be enjoying, like your company or a good conversation.

By not putting pressure on him and just playing it cool and enjoying things that are in no way sexual, you just might spark his flame. Things like stargazing, exploring new cities or neighborhoods, or visiting a museum or art exhibit that you are both interested in can be more sexy than anything physical you could attempt to initiate.

At the end of the night he’ll be wanting more, all because you had a nice evening together with no pressure for anything physical to follow.

What Mars and Venus Can Show You About Your Love and Sexuality

Now that we’ve gone through what he likes and doesn’t like and how you can seduce your Aquarius hottie, let’s look a little deeper into the different Mars, Venus and Eros placements and what they can tell you about how to best approach him.

If you know your Aquarius man’s birthday you can draw up his natal chart for free online, or have an astrologer like myself cast one for you.

There are numerous websites out there that will generate a chart on the spot if you input the necessary info, and some will even give you a brief written interpretation of what it all means. Consulting a real astrologer will always offer a more in-depth interpretation, of course, but it’s good to know your options.

Whichever you choose to do, once you’ve got your charts you will want to locate Venus and Mars and make a note of what sign they are in. There are other things to consider like aspects to different planets or points in the chart, but for now we are just looking at how the planets of love and passion express themselves in each sign.

Mars in Aries:

Mars is right at home in Aries, after all this is the sign that Mars is ruler over. In this sign you are quick to make a move, and when you see something you want you go after it. With Aries being a Cardinal sign, this Mars placement is all about initiation. There is a need to exercise caution with this Mars placement, however, as it can lead to being a bit overzealous when it comes to getting what you want. Those with this placement tend to attract partners who are high-octane and intense like you.

Venus in Aries:

With Venus in Aries you need passion and excitement to really feel the romance. You are turned on by forceful displays of passion and you are likely to be the one who initiates the relationship. You don’t mind doing the chasing when you find someone you feel a connection with and you tend to attract people who are direct and assertive. You are a high energy lover and need someone who can keep up.

Mars in Taurus:

With Mars in Taurus you like to take a steady approach to passion and your stamina allows you to go all night long. You crave success and you are willing to put yourself out there to get what you want in life and in your relationships. You can be a little bullheaded and don’t easily give up once you’ve set your sites on someone who tickles your fancy.

Venus in Taurus:

With your Venus in Taurus you are a sensual and caring partner who needs a sense of stability within your relationship. You are possessive and can be jealous if your partner gives you reason to think there’s anything deceptive happening within your union.

You love to touch and feel your partner and massages are one of your favorite things to indulge your partner with. You are a classy personality and attract those who are well put together, as you are the same.

Mars in Gemini:

With your Mars in Gemini you are a high energy lover and you know how to use your words to express your desires and needs to your partner.

Mental connections are important to you and you get turned on by good conversation with someone you are attracted to. You can often feel torn between two different options for who you want to pursue, but in the end you know how to follow your heart.

Venus in Gemini:

With your Venus in Gemini you have a need for variety in your love life. Eventually you will settle down with the right person, but there is a good possibility that you could have two great loves in your lifetime.

You can’t fall in love if you don’t feel you can make mental connection with your partner. You fall in love easily but can lose interest just as easily. You attract sexual partners who are intellectual types but can become bored if you aren’t kept mentally stimulated.

Mars in Cancer:

With your Mars in Cancer you can have a hard time separating the physical side of relationships with the emotional side.

You have to work at not becoming attached to someone just because you sleep with them, unless, of course, you are in a committed relationship. You are willing to put most or all of your energy into taking care of your partner and can be very protective.

Venus in Cancer:

If your Venus is in Cancer you can have a hard time opening up and letting anyone in when it comes to your romantic relationships.

You need a certain level of security in your life and you want to know with all certainty that your partner genuinely cares. When in a relationship you are a very nurturing partner, but the need to care for others and your own insecurities can push you into being a demanding partner. You attract those who feel deeply and there has to be an emotional connection for you to fall in love.

Mars in Leo:

With your Mars in Leo you have no problem making your desires known to those around you. If you can’t get the attention of the person you desire to be with, you’ll do whatever it takes to make sure they see you and that your message is conveyed in a loving and creative way.

You desire a partner who will stroke your ego a bit and when they stop doing this you could lose interest. You're a passionate lover and sex with someone who you care for or love is one of your favorite ways to pass the time.

Venus in Leo:

With your Venus in Leo you are a warm, romantic soul who is generous with your love and affection. You value happiness and joy in a relationship and you make an amazing lover. Your seductive style is fun, flirty and makes your partner feel like royalty. You love it when your partner shows you just how much they love you and you are naturally great with kids. You attract fun loving partners who are attracted to your warmth and generosity.

Mars in Virgo:

With your Mars in Virgo your passion and drive is very focused and directed on whatever or whoever it is that you want. You don’t like to stop moving and you feel a need to serve those who you care for. You work hard to succeed, including when you are in the throes of passion. You are driven to please your lover and will go to great lengths to do so. You want a lover who is passionate about life and has a good head on their shoulders.

Venus in Virgo:

With your Venus in Virgo you can have very specific opinions about how you would like your romantic relationships to unfold. You value hard work and organization and you have an innate need to plan and know what’s ahead, even in your love life.

You can sometimes be overly analytical and judgmental of your partner, but you do so discreetly, for the most part. You need to be needed when it comes to love and you get a great deal of satisfaction out of caring for the one you love. You tend to attract partners who can fill some practical need in our life.

Mars in Libra:

With your Mars in Libra you prefer to be the one being chased rather than the one doing the chasing in relationships. Your Mars energy is a bit subdued and you’d much rather make love than war. You desire to be with a partner who is attractive and cultured and you need to have balance in your life, as well as in your relationship. When making love you are incredibly giving, but may sometimes get the short end of the stick. You should make more of an effort to let your partner know what you need, too.

Venus in Libra:

With your Venus in Libra you have a love for the beautiful things in life and you have a need to be in a partnership with someone you can connect emotionally with.

You are masterful at finding solutions to disagreements that everyone can agree with, but sometimes you short change yourself at the cost of maintaining the peace. Others are attracted to your natural beauty and elegance, but you require more than just a physical attraction.

Mars in Scorpio:

With your Mars in the deep and brooding Scorpio you have a powerful and magnetic personality and you aren’t afraid to go after what you want. You have an intensity about you that a lot of people find intimidating, and they are probably wise to be so.

Your passions run deep and you have an insatiable sexual appetite, but require more than a superficial relationship. You need someone you connect with and who you can trust. Guard against jealousy in your relationships.

Venus in Scorpio:

With your Venus in Scorpio you take love and relationships and commitment very seriously. When in a relationship you take everything that goes on to heart because you feel things so intensely. Your emotions run deeper than most other people you know, which can be the root of some jealousy problems within your relationships. You aren’t interested in anything superficial when it comes to love, and you can see through any facade. Sexual connections are very important to your happiness and for having a fulfilling love life. You tend to attract people who can match your own smoldering depths of feeling.

Mars in Sagittarius:

With your Mars in Sagittarius you are high energy and you need to experience life to the fullest. You have an optimistic outlook on the future, but you tend to being a bit overbearing when it comes to imposing your personal beliefs on others, including your partner.

You need to experience sexual freedom and you can’t stand it when lovers get clingy or try to pin you down. You are a bold personality who has no problem taking the initiative and going after the one you want.

Venus in Sagittarius:

With your Venus in Sagittarius you have a need to be able to love freely and commitment can be a source of stress and anxiety. If someone makes attempts to force themselves on you or tries to push you into a relationship you aren’t into you, will quickly make your escape.

You love “love,” you just don’t love being tied down in one spot, unless, of course, you know you’ve found “the one.” You need a partner who connects with you on an intellectual level and whom you can share your thoughts and dreams with. You attract many people with your jovial temperament and your great personality, but it takes someone special to persuade you to stay in one place for an extended period of time.

Mars in Capricorn:

With your Mars in Capricorn you have more control over those primal urges that drive most people into going after their desires. You are a very sensual lover and you have a lot to offer your partner, but you know that there is a time and place for everything and if it just isn’t right you would rather avoid pleasure altogether than fall into something that isn’t really working for you. You like to be the one in control in your relationship. You possess the capacity to be incredibly passionate but do so on your own schedule.

Venus in Capricorn:

With your Venus in Capricorn you have a reserved manner of loving and you may not know quite how to go about expressing your feelings. If your responsibilities aren’t all taken care of and in good order you can’t focus on things like romance and any partner you allow into your life has got to be on point with their own personal aspirations and life goals.

What you lack in the mushy romantic stuff you make up for with your ability to take care of all the responsibilities that life throws your way. You tend to attract partners who take their roles in life seriously and who see you as someone they can build a successful, responsible life with.

Mars in Aquarius:

With your Mars in Aquarius you have a unique and quixotic way of approaching life and you aren’t afraid to go after what or who you want. When it comes to relationships you have to be first turned on by your partners mind before you will be too much interested in what they have to offer physically. You are very open minded and seek out partners who are willing to experiment a little and have some fun.

The things that really turn you on are apt to change on a whim and you never know what will get you going. Commitment isn’t too much your thing, you’ve just got too much life to get out there and live.

Venus in Aquarius:

With your Venus in Aquarius you have a need for friendship and your own personal freedom above solidifying a romantic relationship. It is most likely that you will enter into a relationship with someone who you’ve known for a long time and after you’ve settled down and sown your wild oats.

Any partner you take has to respect your vast need for independence and personal space or you won’t stick around. Traditional love is not your thing, instead you want something and someone unique and different from the norm. You tend to attract partners who don’t quite fit into society’s little box, but who compliment your innate eccentricism nicely.

Mars in Pisces:

With your Mars in Pisces your drive and passions are driven by your sense of creativity and your imagination. Your sexual drive is high and you have the propensity to fantasize about things that you don’t seem to be able to create in your life. You may dream of the perfect lover, a dream that you will chase your entire life if you allow yourself to. You can do a lot with your high levels of creativity if you allow yourself to embrace your fiery mars energy rather than allow fear to hold you back from reaching your full potential.

Venus in Pisces:

With your Venus in Pisces you are seen as someone who has a soft and imaginative way of showing love and affection. You have a sensitive nature that can be taken advantage of if you don’t watch out for people who don’t have your best interest at heart. You have a penchant for giving too much of yourself in relationships and accepting lovers who don’t reciprocate your level of devotion and self-sacrifice.

You fall in love easily and completely, however, you tend to escape reality through your dreams. It can be difficult to stay grounded when the world you create seems so much better than the real world you would rather not face. You tend to attract partners who are wounded or who make you feel as though it is your responsibility to pick up their slack.

What Eros Can Reveal About Your Erotic Side

Now that you know how to decode the influence Mars and Venus have in your Sextrology chart, we’re going to delve into Eros and what this asteroid reveals about your deepest, most erotic needs and desires.

The following interpretations will give you the edge you need to become the best lover your Aquarius man has ever had, as well as show you how to have the most amazing sexual experience you’ve ever dreamed of.

As I explained in the beginning of this book, Eros is the Greek god of erotic love, and the son of the Greek goddess Aphrodite, nestled between Mars and Venus in your chart. Most standard natal charts don’t show Eros, but you can find your Eros placement with a little research or by consulting a professional astrologer for a personal reading that goes much deeper than just these three celestial bodies.

Unlike the traditional planets, Eros is shown simply as what sign in your chart this asteroid is in rather than the exact degree, so if you see that in your searching, don't worry. Also, don’t confuse Eros with Eris, as these two are completely different and have very different meanings.

Eros Meanings in the Signs

Eros in Aries:

With your Eros is in Aries you require a lot of sexual experiences to feel totally fulfilled in your relationship. Your sex life can be chaotic at times but your passion is intense and always seems to be in high gear. If your partner can’t keep up with you on this you may start to lose interest in the relationship and choose to move on to someone more sexually driven.

You like the cat and mouse game that comes along with pursuing a romantic relationship. When your prospective partner declines your advances you perceive that as a challenge rather than an actual dismissal of your request. In a way, this is like foreplay and it prepares you for the impending relationship, of which you have no doubt will be forthcoming once you’ve broken down the walls that the one you desire has put up.

Eros in Taurus:

With your Eros is in Taurus you are happiest when you have a steady, healthy relationship in your life, but you are apt to be extra possessive and perceive your partner as more of a possession that an equal.

For you, sex is more than just something that you do, it is a part of who you are. You experience sexual experiences very intensely and, in fact, your sexual relationship is tied closely to your level of well-being.

Love is not a definite requirement for you to engage in sexual activity with a compatible partner, but it makes things more enjoyable. When you are unable to be with a partner, rather than go without the release, you have no problem handling business alone.

For you this is something that must be done, but you do not get the same level of satisfaction unless you can pair up with a loving partner. You are naturally a very gifted lover and your partners are never disappointed.

Eros in Gemini:

With your Eros in Gemini you have a very open mind when it comes to sexual encounters and your approach to the more erotic side of life. You need a partner who can turn you on with words, and who will be receptive to you sharing with them your deepest darkest desires and erotic fantasies.

Due in part to the influence of the twins, those with Eros in Gemini have the capacity to engage in sexual adventures with more than one person at the same time and sees these encounters as more of an experience than an emotionally binding contract with one person.

This is not to say that you lack the ability to be faithful to the one they love, there just has to be love there for you to be faithful. Intellectual compatibility is a requirement for the love and fidelity to develop and grow, and in fact, those with Eros in Gemini seem to get off on things that are spoken or written. You may find that you enjoy things such as erotic novels and dirty talk a little more than the next guy, but it satisfies a deeply felt need and desire.

Eros in Cancer:

With your Eros in Cancer you can have a really hard time separating emotional ties from sexual interactions. You see sex as a deeply personal experience and you bond instantly to whomever you get so intimately close with. You don’t, however, go around sleeping with strangers and then becoming attached, the attachment begins before you ever get into bed with this other person. You are a very nurturing lover, but can sometimes make your partner feel as though you are smothering them with all the concern and care you have to offer them.

You sometimes use sex as a means to validate whatever particular mood you are in. If you are feeling down on yourself you may use a sexual partner like an object in an effort to make yourself feel better.

When you are in good spirits and your confidence levels are high, however, you are a loving and nurturing partner who sees beauty in your sexual union. You have an affinity for breasts and some with this Eros placement have a bit of an oral fixation. You love to celebrate the female body and can become quite jealous of your partner should anything come up that causes you to feel that way.

Eros in Leo:

With your Eros in Leo you get the most erotic enjoyment and feel the most pleased with a partner who you feel worships you in bed. As long as you know that your partner is enjoying themselves and is completely enamored with you and your sexual prowess you are happy.

Should this adoration begin to fade, however, you can lose interest and may choose to move on to another partner who worships you as your previous partner did. Generally those with Eros in Leo are warm and inviting souls who make their partners feel loved and cared for, until, of course, the adoration stops and they get kicked to the curb.

You are likely to be a big flirt, but may spend quite a bit of time engaging in auto-erotic behaviors, from which you get a great deal of pleasure.

You are known to be an excellent lover, as well as being known to be a very generous lover. The only hitch to that is the fact that you expect your partner to reciprocate.

Eros in Virgo:

With your Eros in Virgo you have a discerning attitude toward sexual exploration, yet you see sex as a healthy function of the body that you were born with. You may worry more than some others about your ability to perform and can be overly critical and analytical of yourself at times.

You are methodical when it comes to getting it on and you sort of rate yourself on how you did once everything is said and done. What really gets you there is making certain that every aspect of your sexual adventure is perfect, down to the smallest details. When you can achieve “perfect” sex this sends you over the edge.

You are highly intelligent, and much like those with Eros in Gemini you need to be intellectually stimulated before you feel ready to take it to the next level. Although Virgo is symbolized by the Virgin you are anything but. You have an earthy sensuality about you and you feel that through the act of sexual exploration you somehow renew certain parts of yourself.

You may go through periods where you are celibate and times when you are most certainly not. You feel connected to nature and get on different cycles as they feel appropriate for your health and personal evolution.

You want to ensure that your partner is satisfied and will go to great lengths to not disappoint in bed. Despite the sense of purity that is connected with the sign of Virgo, you have your moments where you explore the more taboo, kinky side of your personality-And you love every moment of it.

Eros in Libra:

With your Eros in Libra you may be the one in your sexual relationships who gives more than they get. You are naturally charming and pretty much irresistible to those in your company, but because you work so hard to keep your partner happy and satisfied, your own desires and needs can fall between the cracks.

You love it, and it turns you on, when you are able to go out and display your gorgeous partner like a trophy or eye candy. This is never in the vein of being disrespectful, you just get so much enjoyment out of beauty and to know that this person is yours and nobody else’s really gets you going.

You are in love with love, every aspect of it. You are someone who truly needs a partner to share your life with. If made to go it alone there is virtually no satisfaction or happiness found in anything that you do.

Over time it is not uncommon for those with Eros in Libra to become resentful of their partner, due to the imbalance in the give and take of who is the one experiencing more pleasure because of the efforts of the other person.

You work so had at balancing your environment and keeping everyone happy, you would do well to work on this issue, should it come up, before you begin to resent the one you love so much.

Eros in Scorpio:

With your Eros in Scorpio you are a highly sexually charged individual who puts a lot of time, thought and effort into creating a sexual experience that transcends all else. You’re magnetic and irresistible, yet some are intimidated by the power that just seems to ooze out of your pores. You demand that your partner be all in or all out. You aren’t interested in a halfway kind of sexual relationship.

You ask a lot of your partner, but you give a lot in return. You tend to meld and become one with your sexual partner, body and soul, until all that is left is the combined energy of the two of you intertwined.

You are extremely loyal and would never do anything to hurt your partner, as long as they have done nothing to hurt you. Those with Eros in Scorpio tend to always get revenge when they are wronged, so the best course of action is simply to not betray the trust of an Eros in Scorpio person.

Sexual encounters are thrilling to you. You get pleasure and enjoyment out of every facet of the experience. From the act of sex itself, to the closeness of two bodies, to the level of vulnerability that each person is exposed to for a short time, you need this in your life. Without the intimately erotic side of your relationship you would have a hard time finding happiness.

Eros in Sagittarius:

With your Eros in Sagittarius you have a lighthearted outlook on your sexuality and the act of sex itself. You love sex, absolutely love doing it. You need to be with a partner with whom you can relate on a spiritual level, though, otherwise the enjoyment level drops dramatically.

You are a seeker of knowledge and you want to learn as much as you can about as many things as you can. Someone who can facilitate your acquisition of knowledge turns you on like nobody’s business. You crave good conversation, laughs and gathering bits of wisdom as you go along your journey, and the sexual experiences you have are like a great bonus to all the rest.

You like for sex to be fun and you are likely a pretty competitive lover. You like to make a game or sport out of the act and this is how you reach your highest points of ecstasy and pleasure. Things that make the sex adventuresome, such as doing it in a hidden public place or outside gets you going and adds layers of fun to the whole experience.

You like the idea of free love and you aren’t one to become terribly attached to every lover you take, but you do require your partners to be completely honest with you, just as you are with them. You don’t do clingy, this is a turnoff for those with Eros in Sagittarius.

When you do settle down it will be with someone you love and appreciate for their mind, not their sexual prowess. Explore your body in your youth as to not have regrets when you do settle down for good.

Eros in Capricorn:

With your Eros in Capricorn you don’t really allow yourself to open up to the possibilities of exploring your erotic side to the degree that all of the other signs do. You tend to be more reserved and you rarely ever rush into a romantic or erotic situation without thinking it through completely.

All this thinking kind of deters you from ever getting to that point, but not every time. There are things that turn you on, you are just cautious and selective. You are so used to being in control in day to day life that when you let loose, and when in the right company, you may choose to relinquish control of the situation completely. This who have Eros in Capricorn are found to be into things that some see as being taboo. BDSM, sadomasochistic behavior, and other things that allow you to let go of control and let someone else take the reins is often just the thing your soul is yearning for.

By allowing your partner to assume total control you are able to briefly leave your own reality behind for a time and just enjoy something that is your little secret. This is actually a very empowering situation for you, but you can only indulge in this type of erotic pleasure when you’ve found someone and created a stable relationship where you know you can trust your partner. Trust is key.

Eros in Aquarius:

With your Eros in Aquarius you like to experiment with a wide variety of erotic pleasures. Things that are considered “normal” just can’t quench your thirst, but when you step outside of your comfort zone a little and see what all is out there you’ll find a myriad of different things that light your fire.

Those with Eros in Aquarius need to be able to freely explore their sexuality and find what works for them and what is pleasurable to their senses. This doesn’t mean that they cannot be loyal to a partner, it just shows that those with Eros here should consider allowing themselves to try different things before settling down. At least then you can say that you did explore and you found things you like and things you don’t.

One area of eroticism that those with Eros in Aquarius seem to fancy is engaging in sexual encounters involving more than two people. It may not be your thing, I mean, it’s not for everyone, but it if seems like something you’d enjoy you can rest assured you aren’t the only on with this Eros placement who digs group sexual encounters. Actually, there are some with this Eros placement who find sharing these sexual experiences with friends they already know can be very rewarding.

Eros in Pisces:

With Eros in Pisces you experience this erotic love and pleasure that the soul craves when you are intimate with someone whom you are connected to as a true lover. You need that connection and casual sex is just not your thing.

You meander through life searching for your soul mate and when you find them you want to be as close to your partner as you possibly can. Unfortunately for those with Eros in Pisces you can become disappointed if things don’t continually work out, but this is usually because you are searching for someone who will complete you.

Your soul is already complete, you need not search for someone to make you happy, but someone to share your happiness with. If you can manage to wrap your head around this concept you stand a much better chance of finding this ecstasy that is a part of your soul’s mission.

Your Eros placement magnifies your sense of compassion for your partner. You feel so connected to this other person that you are able to offer up exactly what they need, and this brings you joy, as well. Eros in Pisces can bring amazing, unforgettable experiences into your life, just make sure you don’t lose yourself in the process.

Putting It All Together

Remember that what we’re looking at when it comes to Eros is a side of ourselves that a lot of people never let come out. By embracing your soul's erotic desires you not only get to know yourself better, you can experience pleasures that might otherwise be forever outside your reach.

Your Aquarius man is one lucky guy, that’s for sure! He’s not the easiest guy in the world to figure out, but he’s never claimed to be either. All of this information aside, the most important thing to remember when it comes to getting closer to an Aquarian man is to always respect his freedom and don’t try to box him in.

If he digs you, he digs you, but if you try to pin him down, even when he is diggin, you he will take off like a shot and then you’ll be needing to refer to the book in this series on how to get your Aquarius man back. While that mini-book is chock full of helpful tips to win him back, this one, I’m sure, is much more fun to utilize!

To totally decode his deepest secret desires and how you match up sexually, you’ll need to grab yourself a copy of both his natal chart and yours, find Venus, Mars and Eros in each, and refer to the previous sections of this book for an interpretation. If you do choose to have a compatibility reading done by a professional astrologer, such as myself, you will be able to ask for a copy of your chart along with your reading.

Keep in mind that all you’ve learned today is still just brushing the surface of what all you can determine with Sextrology. Once we have all of your birth info, we can gain even more insight into things by looking into aspects made between all of the other planets we didn’t go over today, and how your charts work together as a whole.

With all of this knowledge you are well on your way to discovering what your Aquarius man’s deepest desires are and how to be the best lover he’s ever had.

You can use this to build a strong and satisfying relationship that works for both of you and brings happiness into your life on a whole new level.

Seriously, if you apply all of the information here you’re guaranteed to blow his mind. Now, go out there and have some fun getting up close and personal with your Aquarius guy!

I hope you've learned a lot from this book!

May the stars be on your side,

Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,

MJSEO TEAM

P.S. Hey, I'd absolutely love to hear from you! If you've got any questions or need some extra help with your specific situation, feel free to email me directly at contact@horoscopesocialnetwork.com and I'll be happy to help you out as soon as I grab some time (just make sure you mention your guy's zodiac sign too).