How To Text a Aquarian Man
The Aquarian man can be something of an enigma when it comes to figuring out exactly how to communicate with him in a one-onone kind of scenario. Being an Air sign, the Aquarius man operates on a cerebral level and communication is kind of his thing. This, however, doesn’t always transfer over to those more intimate conversations that typically signal the initiation of a romantic relationship. In this book we will go over how to accomplish getting him to open up to you and how to best catch his eye and keep him interested in conversations.
Being that Aquarians are so into electronics and techno gadgets, it is a pretty safe bet that modes of communication like texting, Skype, or email are great places to start with getting in touch with him.
When texting, f you want him to respond you’ve got to keep the conversation light and also interesting. If you run out of things to say and you message him just for the sake of making a statement, the odds are that he won’t reply right away. You see, Aquarians love to talk and exchange information and ideas, but empty conversations meant just to fill space will cause him to lose interest rapidly.
Who Should Send the First Message?
It can be frustrating trying to decide should you be the initiator of conversation with a new guy or should you wait by the phone for him to contact you? On the one hand, waiting can drive you mad, but on the other hand, you don’t want to come across as too aggressive or needy. So, what do you do? Well, when it comes tothe Aquarius man it is totally acceptable to make the first move. In fact, with this guy making the first move is usually the right choice.
Aquarians are emotionally detached and don’t tend to sit around dreaming about romantic encounters or the next conversation he’ll have with a potential mate. This is just not who he is and it probably never will be. When you contact him, though, as long as there is an interesting topic or comment on the table he will happily reciprocate with a returned text.
As a side note, going the old fashioned route and making an actual phone call is also an option when it comes to getting in touch. The downside to this option, however, is that a phone conversation is likely to be much shorter in duration than a string of interesting and lively messages between you and your Aquarian guy.
He isn’t going to be one to open up quickly and being tethered to the phone can feel a bit restrictive in a world where texting and multi-tasking has become a way of life. Even though it seems less personal on some levels, you can actually get to know your Aquarian guy more quickly via text, at least in the beginning.
Getting Him to Talk
Now that you have determined that it is ok to be the one to initiate contact you’ve got to decide on how you will start the conversation. The odds are pretty good that you met your Aquarian guy through a mutual friend or in a group setting.
Of course, it’s possible that you met elsewhere, but this is just speculation from past experiences and interactions with people just like you trying to figure out where to go from here with an Aquarian.
You’ve got to know that his friends are at the tip-top of his priority list and he’d do just about anything for them. Starting the conversation off with a note about how much fun the event you were at was, or perhaps inviting him to join you with some friends is one way to pretty much ensure that you’ll get a response. Now, I know what you are thinking—You want to get some alone time with him and here I am suggesting that you invite him out to a group thing.
Well, this is what you will run into and is what you’ll have to do if you want to get closer to him. You’ve got to interact with him within a group of friends before you can get that more intimate, oneon-one time you are craving.
Never start the conversation out with something boring like just saying, “Hi.” There is really nowhere for him to go with this and consequently nowhere for the conversation to go. If you are a witty kind of personality you can also go with sending him an intellectual joke, but make sure it is both smart and funny. If you can make him laugh he is sure to return your text.
Once he has returned your message then you can just kind of see what direction the conversation takes. Aquarians are known for their unpredictability, so you really never can plan out a conversation with one.
You can create a rough outline in your head of what you’d like to say, but honestly, once you get to talking the topic could veer off in virtually any direction. This is where your own quick wit will come into play. It’s important to the Aquarian guy that you can keep up with the conversation. Granted, things probably won’t get too deep the first time you talk, but then again, you never know!
Getting Him to Ask You Out
Although it is not unheard of, it isn’t totally typical of an Aquarian guy to ask you out on a date until he feels he knows you pretty well. Like I’ve said, friendship is ultra important to him and he’d rather build a solid friendship than get into an awkward situation where he feels compelled to show emotion—something he doesn’t do all that well. Don’t let this get you down, just know that you may be the one who makes the first move in propositioning a date.
I know, I know...Here you’ve made the first call and now you are having to make the first move to get a date. Remember that Aquarians are forward thinkers, he is a progressive kind of guy and doesn’t believe in those old standards that the man makes all the moves.
Unless you’ve done something really spectacular or he is just smitten to the Moon and back because of some undeniable chemistry between the two of you, you’ll be waiting a long time if you wait for him to make the moves.
Alright, now you’ve got him talking and you are ready to suggest that the two of you spend some time in each other’s company, but what are you going to suggest? Group events are always a safe bet, and he will almost always say yes to this kind of thing. A gettogether with friends or, even better yet, some kind of charity function with a group you both may belong to or that you admire would be a slam dunk as to whether he will respond positively to your request for a date.
Other options that would spark his interest would be inviting him out to a new art exhibit, some tech expo, or something where the scene is casual and interesting. A concert or perhaps grabbing lunch or dinner at a unique little place that isn’t on the mainstream map could be a great plan. Of course, you want to do something that you’ll also enjoy, so think about these types of dates or events and choose something that will make the both of you happy.
As far as the timeframe for when you should try to get him to go out with you, there is no time like the present! You don’t want to ask him on Monday to go out with you next Sunday.
Aquarian guys aren’t really much into planning on such a small level and spur of the moment invites can sometimes work out wonderfully. If you are one to need a bit of time to prepare and plan, that’s fine, just don’t make plans too far out. Limit the time in-between asking and doing to 3-4 days, max.
Getting to Know Him a Little Better
Alright, now you have made contact, you’ve got a date planned and you are really excited about how things seem to be working out. Now you have to figure out how to go about getting to know him and getting him to open up to you a bit.
After all, you can’t really decide if you want to take this budding relationship to the next level until you know him a bit better, right? Well, actually, Aquarian men can be quite intriguing and draw you in with their energy, so you wouldn’t necessarily have to know him better to want a relationship, but it helps.
Getting him to open up to you can be tricky. This is not because he is shy or anything, quite the opposite, but when it comes to emotional exchanges Aquarians are like turtles. You can get him to open up to you through showing him that he can trust you and rely on you as a friend, but attempts to force him to divulge personal information about himself before he’s ready will be met with disaster.
You’ll want to keep his attention and keep the conversation light and lively once you get to talking one-on-one. Being prepared to converse on a myriad of different topics is one way to keep his attention, but you can’t go into a discussion without having actual knowledge on said subject.
Being the wealth of knowledge that almost all Aquarians are, you can start off conversations by asking his opinion or his viewpoints on any given topic, just don’t go into a conversation armed with only shallow bits of knowledge that you learned scrolling through Facebook or something.
Aquarians respect intellect and others who can process information quickly and throughly. They tend to analyze everything from every angle and have a need to understand. Aquarian men are honest and will always tell you what they are thinking, which is great because you never have to try and read between the lines with these guys.
That being said, it is important that you are also honest and upfront with him. Silly mind games or trying to be someone or something you’re not are things that will bring things with this guy to an abrupt end.
You’ve Got to Give it Time
It’s important to understand that even though Aquarians can be impulsive and make major decisions on a whim, getting into a romantic relationship is not something that the Aquarius man will usually do quickly.
This is going to take some time and impatience on your part will be met with resistance. Enjoy the time you’ll spend becoming friends and let the relationship marinate a bit before you take things to the next level. He needs to know he can trust you and the best relationships do tend to come from a strong friendship base that you can refer back to when things get tough—As relationship invariably do from time to time.
Avoid being pushy or too needy, this will only push him away. Showing him that you have respect for him and having a genuine interest in the things you do together and the conversations you have will help to draw him closer to you and create a feeling of being able to become more than just friends.
Aquarians, in general, are known for their eccentric and quirky ways and this definitely extends to how they communicate and relate to other people. Expect the unexpected with your Aquarian guy and be prepared to go with the flow. Also, stand by your convictions. If you have a differing opinion than he does, don’t be afraid to tell him.
Being a push over is a real turnoff and will get you nowhere, not in life and not with an Aquarian. He wants to know that you are someone who believes strongly in things and that you have a clear standpoint on topics of importance. Getting into a good debate with him will win you points with him, as well as some levels of respect, just be certain that you get your facts right and that you know what you are talking about.
Even though Aquarians are the dreamers of the Zodiac, your Aquarian guy is probably not dreaming about marriage and a mortgage. In fact, I can guarantee you that’s not what his dreams are made of.
He likes to plan and dream of future adventures he will have or inventions he will create. He has an idealistic view of what the world of tomorrow will be like, but he thinks on more of a global scale rather than a personal one. For these reasons and more, you’ll want to hold off on planning for a family and a future together until you are into the relationship enough that your plans won’t scare him away. You can, however, get into some incredibly interesting conversations revolving around humanitarian or global issues.
‘Freedom and independence above all else’ may as well be the Aquarian motto, making it important to avoid things that will cause your Aquarian guy to feel trapped or boxed in. You can bet that he is ambitious and will make a wonderful partner for the long haul, however, suggestions of marriage or the old “ball and chain” will likely be off-putting if you try to get into these topics early on in the relationship. Give it time, let things grow naturally. When the time is right you’ll know and it will probably come out of nowhere. Just ,BAM!, all of the sudden the relationship has leveled up and there you are getting ready for an impromptu wedding.
Maintaining the Relationship
Once you’ve gotten past the hurdles of getting into a relationship with an Aquarius man, you’ll want to figure out what makes him tick and how to keep him interested. All that stuff about marriage and planning for the future is way down the road, for now you want to focus on just growing a successful relationship and getting to know one another inside and out.
The key to maintaining a relationship and open lines of communication with an Aquarius guy is always, always keeping that strong friendship vibe. This can be frustrating if you are someone who feels that the romance is more important than the friendship, but then again, if this is your outlook then an Aquarian may not be right for you. Whatever the days hold for the two of you, either in your separate day to day lives or in your relationship, at the end of the day if he can come to you and talk to you as a friend you’ll know that you are on the right track.
Foreseeable Issues
As with everything in life there are potential issues and problematic situations that can arise when you are dealing with an Aquarius man. Getting him to open up to you and really move things forward in the direction of a relationship can be difficult.
As I said, he can be very turtle-like and give off the impression that he doesn’t really care when the truth is that he does, he just doesn’t know how to express himself emotionally.
One of the most common things I hear from clients when it comes to Aquarian men is that they aren’t very physical creatures, not in the sense that a lot of men can be. This isn’t always a bad thing, in fact, it can be kind of endearing, depending on your personality. It isn’t that your Aquarius guy finds you unattractive, not at all. It’s just that the Aquarian man wants to get to know your mind before he gets to know your body.
Sure, he’s thought about it, but Aquarians live by a rule structure that is all their own and 9 times out of 10 he’s going to make sure that you are mentally compatible before you get down and dirty.
This is not to say that things won’t get steamy between the two of you, though. Actually, once you get to that place where you are ready to take your physical relationship to the next level you may be surprised at just how inventive and exciting the Aquarian man can be in bed!
Another thing that you may run into with an Aquarius man is the tendency to be able to cut right to the heart of things in a disagreement or argument. Not one to engage in petty fights, this isn’t something that you will need to worry with unless you and your Aquarian guy really get into it, but it is good to know that there is a potential for some harsh words.
He is exceedingly intelligent and witty, so naturally when in a position to defend or when feelings get hurt that razor sharp wit can turn into harsh truths said with conviction.
The easiest way to avoid this trouble is to keep things light and positive and discuss problems before they fester and turn into hurt feelings or disappointments.
All in all, Aquarians make for great partners. Sure, it takes the right kind of person to be in a successful relationship with one, but if you've made it this far the odds are good that you’ll do just fine.
They can be stubborn and idealistic to the point of driving someone who has more Earthy or Watery influences in their chart a bit mad, but Aquarians are fiercely loyal and will be there as a friend and faithful partner until the very end.
Showing him that you are someone who can be trusted and who will be there for him is imperative, but this is true of any successful relationship.
By drawing out his emotional side and getting him to express a side of himself that he would otherwise keep locked away inside, you are helping him to grow and develop as a person.
This may be a bit uncomfortable in the beginning, but truly it will be a rewarding experience for the both of you. He will do the same for you by opening your eyes to new things and by sharing his vast knowledge with you. This can be a mutually beneficial and really rewarding relationship as long you are both happy and on the same wavelength.
If you’re wondering what you can do to make him feel special or show him you care, please be sure to check out 25 Ways To Make Your Aquarius Man Feel Special. In this next bonus book you’ll find a well crafted, fool proof list of ideas you can use to really tug on his heart strings and show him how you feel.
I wish you all the very best in life and love! Now, get out there and get the conversation going with your Aquarius man!
May the stars be on your side,
MJSEO TEAM
P.S. Hey, don't forget. If you're still confused about his text messages and what they mean, I can always help you out by analyzing them for you (maybe he's not the best guy for you after all!).
P.P.S. And I'm happy to hear from you! If you've got any questions or need some extra help with your specific situation, feel free to email me directly at contact@horoscopesocialnetwork.com and I'll be happy to help you out as soon as I grab some time.