2024/12/16 Dont spoil an act of kindness by speaking of it. So goes the old proverb. Theres something you can do to bring relief, reassurance or even joy to a certain person but you might be weighing up the pros and cons, particularly what you stand to gain or benefit from doing so. Youre not being selfish, youre simply wanting to know effort youre prepared to make will be appreciated. An altruistic act on your part will be appreciated and recognized with no need to have it confirmed.