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Libra

Symbol:   The Scales
Element:   Air
Polarity:   Positive
Quality:   Cardinal
Ruling Planet:   Venus
Ruling House:   Seventh
Spirit Color:   Blue
Lucky Gem:   Sapphire
Flower:   Rose
Top Love Matches:   Gemini
Key Traits:   Diplomatic, artistic, intelligent
Motto:   "No person is an island."
Classic (Famous) Libras:   Matt Damon, Marion Cotillard, Hugh Jackman, Gwyneth Paltrow, Kim Kardashian, Bruno Mars, Lil Wayne, Bella Thorne, Nick Cannon, Halsey, Will Smith, Candice Swanepoel, Kate Winslet
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Libra Love Compatibility

Libra's Love Style

Libra adores flirting, loves the drama and pageantry of romance, and is one of the few signs of the Zodiac that actually enjoys first dates. While Libras excel at charming potential partners, they have difficulty figuring out what they want, and all too often can get lost in the twists and turns of a relationship. Because of this, a Libra will sometimes hold back on falling in love, worried that partnership equals loss of self. Libra's partner has to be understanding if this sign seems to pull back. They should allow Libra the time and space to explore partnership on his or her own terms.

While pragmatic Libras love romance, they're unlikely to rush into something. Instead, their rational side will weigh pros and cons, often thinking years into the future. A Libra will absolutely talk about future children, including what schools those kids-to-be will attend, and find these conversations with partners invaluable in helping to shape a rich life together.

Librans want to please their partner, which can result in misunderstandings. Because this sign hates conflict, they may want their partner to always plan date nights. They certainly have ideas, but they're sensitive to criticism and worried that their partner may not enjoy what they've picked out. It's important for Libra to become an equal partner and realize that he or she isn't solely responsible for the other person's happiness (or lack thereof).

A Libra hates conflict. Shouting and accusations frighten them. By sticking with "I feel" messages and making sure that your Libra feels loved even though you're angry right now, you'll go a long way toward making him or her feel safe about sharing feelings.

A passionate sign, Libra needs physical and mental turn-ons. They love the slow burn of sexy back-and-forth texting and have an especially rich fantasy life. Tuning into that via role-play, dirty talk, and BDSM-style exploration can go a long way in keeping your Libra feeling hot, hot, hot.

Best Zodiac Love Matches for Libra

Leo: Fiery Leo falls hard for Libra, and Libra loves how Lions wear their heart on their sleeve. The two signs have an instant carnal connection, and Leo can help Libra take risks-including falling in love.

Aquarius: Adventurous and independent, Aquarius and Libra both get into a relationship with each other precisely because they don't "need" a partner-until they meet, spend time together, and discover that they can't live apart. Aquarius and Libra won't try to change each other. Instead, they're inspired by each other's different ways of approaching life.

Sagittarius: Adventurous Archers entrance Libra because they don't worry about what other people think. By example, Libra learns how to stop being so indecisive, and also learns that passionate debates (okay, arguments) don't signify the end of a relationship. Sag can teach Libra how to fight, and the makeup sex is phenomenal.

Favorite Date Nights for Libra

For all Libra's love of comfort, coziness, and Saturdays spent under the covers, potential paramours who think that the Scales' ideal date night is Netflix and chill are mistaken. Libra also adores going out on the town, and loves getting reservations at exclusive restaurants and wine bars. They relish the anticipation for a good night out, and also being in the know about which cool new things or experiences to sample. Of course, after all that, cuddling on the couch is a great follow-up. And although Libras sometimes play coy, they also adore PDA. They're proud of their partner and like showing them off to anyone who might be watching.

The Deal with Libra and Fire Signs

Libra tries hard not to seem ruffled and to get along with everybody. But this air sign tend to fall for fire signs (Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius), the Zodiacal provocateurs who can make them raise their voice, get mad, and even throw things. So what's the deal? Why does balanced Libra do that?

Part of the reason is that they're drawn to the drama. After all, they spend all their days playing peacekeeper and mediator, and passionate fire signs push them to their edge and give them the freedom and implicit okay to finally say exactly what's on their mind. They also love the impulsiveness of fire signs, yet they also feel that fire signs can help them look before they leap.

Fire signs and Libra also understand each other. Pragmatic Libra understands that sometimes relationships just don't work out, while passionate fire signs know that the likelihood of remaining in one relationship forever can be unrealistic. Because Libra and fire signs expect an end date, they're more honest with each other and might actually end up being together forever, simply because they realize that there's nowhere else they'd rather be.

But even if the relationship doesn't work out, Libra loves a challenge and will always find one with intense fire signs. There's little regret about these relationships because they teach Libra something new-and help this sign find his or her voice.

How to Seduce a Libra

Have your eye on a Libra? Well, so does everyone else, so get in line! Even though Librans can present themselves as low-key, they're always aware of who's watching them, and tend to orchestrate events so they're in the spotlight. Knowing this about Libras-their elaborate efforts to make things seem effortless-can be key to capturing their heart. Noticing them, lavishly praising them, and making them feel like they're the most important and attractive person in the room will go a long way to win their hearts. Here are some other ways to win a Libra's heart:

Be independent. Libra is drawn to the people who play hard to get. Having your own thing going on, or subtly jockeying for your own spotlight, can only impress them. And doing it at their party? Why, the sheer, sexy nerve of you! Play bartender and make up a cocktail for them-they'll adore your confidence.

Be funny. Librans loves to laugh because it's one of the few times that they can let their guard down. Telling them stories-especially self-deprecating anecdotes where the joke's on you-shows that you have confidence.

Force them to decide. While a Libra often demurs on making decisions, trust that he or she does have opinions (sometimes very strong ones). Letting Libras decide what to do-and praising their choices-will give them the confidence to tell you exactly what they think.

How to Make Love to a Libra

Start slow, and start early. Begin by telling them via text just how much you miss their body, and then tell them exactly what you plan to do with it. When you're finally face to face, keep those carnal compliments coming. Spend a lot of time on kissing-it's one of Libra's favorite ways to communicate.

When it comes to the main event, Libras love you to take charge. Dominant positions, like doggie style, are especially popular with this sign. They love being able to fully let their bodies go and enjoy the physical sensations. But it's equally important to trade places: Doing role-play and letting them take the lead can help you tune into what they like, and can also free them to tell you what they truly need from you, both in and out of the bedroom.

If You Love a Libra Woman

Give her space. A Libra sometimes needs solo time to figure out what she thinks, and pressuring her about it can make her feel resentful. Even if you want to talk about a relationship issue, it's likely to backfire if she's not ready for that conversation. Let her come to you, and she'll appreciate that you gave her time and space to formulate her thoughts. She'll also be more open about what's really on her mind.

How to Communicate With a Libra Woman

Appreciate the in-betweens. When a Libra woman says, "I don't know," she's not being coy-she truly doesn't know, and doesn't want to take sides on an issue until she knows where she stands. Realize that different perspectives exist, and consider trying on another one for size. You're not changing your mind-looking at an issue from another viewpoint is key to understanding the Libra worldview.

If You Love a Libra Man

Let him flirt. Innately flirtatious, Libra has used charm throughout his life-but that doesn't mean he'll cheat. Libras are loyal, and a Libra man who feels like he has to second-guess his interactions with others will get resentful, and may end up hiding things from you. In other words, being suspicious of a Libra man will backfire.

How to Communicate With a Libra Man

Don't put words in his mouth. A Libra man hates when someone else tries to tell him what he's thinking or feeling. Listen to him, ask open-ended questions, and realize that even if you don't understand or agree with his point, it's still valid. Questioning his rationality, intelligence, or meaning will only lead to more communication issues.

Should You Marry a Libra?

Yes! While a Libra may drive you crazy with his or her indecision, fear of commitment, and almost allergic reaction to arguments, this sign is intelligent, intense, and committed to creating a happy home and life for the two of you. Once Libras decide that you're their partner, they see everything through the lens of "us," and will ensure that the lifelong decisions you make will benefit both of you. Libra guarantees that, together, you're both stronger and happier than you'd ever be on your own.

3 Signs That Libra is Playing for Keeps

Libras don't wear their heart on their sleeve, and they may seem to say one thing and do another-which can drive you crazy. But looking past the words and into the actions behind them is key for sussing out whether your Libra sees you as long-term relationship material. Here's how you can tell:

  1. They invite you to their house. It may sound minor, but Libras' home is their haven, and they're very careful about the energy they let in. If they invite you in (just you, and not with a bunch of party guests), it's a sign they trust you.
  2. They tell you that they don't like something. Sure, it's ego bruising to hear that they'd have preferred a different gift than the one you gave, but it's actually a promising sign. Libras will bend over backward to make others happy, but when they're honest with you, it means that they realize you're interested in their happiness, too.
  3. They invite you into their routine. Whether it's bringing you to their yoga class or inviting you to make dinner with them on a random weeknight, getting to see the low-key, non-glam side of Libra's life is a sign that they can see a future with you.

Libra Relationship Red Flags

A Libra may not tell you if anything's wrong-but if you hear that there's trouble in paradise from his or her friend, pay attention. While Librans will try hard to spare your feelings, they sometimes can't help dishing about the real story to someone they trust. Once they start taking behind your back, it's a sign something is wrong.

Libras have a million friends, but once they're in a relationship, they want you to be part of that crowd. If they seem cagey about inviting you to hang out with their friends, it could be a sign they're second-guessing how you fit into their life.

Finally, Libra won't start an argument, but he or she may be more passive-aggressive than usual. That might look like saying that everything's fine or deliberately bringing up sensitive topics around you-just to get a reaction or goad you into starting the fight.

How Libra Deals With a Broken Heart

Libra wants to stop the hurt fast. He or she may justify the breakup or broken heart by explaining to anyone who will listen why it never would have worked anyway. For a follow-up, Librans have been known to badmouth or mock their former partner to somehow mitigate the hurt. But this is a sign who badly wants things to work, so they'll quietly do the detective work to figure out what went wrong, combing over every email, text, or social media post as if they could pinpoint exactly what happened. In order to get over a broken heart, a Libra needs time, attention, and plenty of ice cream. Taking Libras out for drinks or dinner and inviting them to parties reminds them they have plenty of people in their corner.