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Aries

Symbol:   The Ram
Element:   Fire
Polarity:   Positive
Quality:   Cardinal
Ruling Planet:   Mars
Ruling House:   First
Spirit Color:   Red
Lucky Gem:   Diamond
Flower:   Thistle & honeysuckle
Top Love Matches:   Sagittarius
Key Traits:   Ambitious, independent, impatient.
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Aries Love Compatibility

Aries' Love Style

Like their ruling planet Mars, Aries are hot and stormy. They're a combination of confidence and passion combined with temper and petulance. Everyone who ever loves an Aries tries-unsuccessfully but excitingly-to tame them.

This wildly flirtatious fire sign certainly takes the initiative when it comes to romance. They're quick to move when someone catches their eye. But to keep an Aries' attention, that someone needs to be as energetic and as exciting as they are. This passionate sign loves adventure. So don't mistake an Aries' restlessness for boredom. It's not a signal that they'd prefer to be somewhere else (or with someone else). It's a signal they want to pick up the pace!

Whirlwind romances are common for the Aries personality. But once love sets in, it's generally for life. As long as there's plenty of spice and excitement to keep the blood pumping, the relationship will be strong and long lasting.

Best Zodiac Love Matches for Aries

Gemini: Smart, mysterious, and up for anything, Gemini's deep personality keeps Aries endlessly intrigued, while Gemini loves Aries' no-holds-barred approach to life.

Libra: Balanced and low-key, Libra can rein Aries in, encouraging them to reflect on their deeper self, which can sometimes be hard to do on their own.

Sagittarius: All about action and honesty, Archers are a true passion match for Aries. Fights will likely be stormy, but since both signs are honest, they'll at least know where the other stands.

Taurus: Aries often sees Taurus as tame and can get exasperated by the Bull's rational, consider-all-points approach to life. But if Aries can get past that, they may just find a match that will show them how good (and steamy!) slow and steady can be.

Favorite Date Nights For Aries

Aries love long dates-cocktails followed by dinner, a nightcap, and a long, sleepless night in bed. Passion reigns supreme for an Aries in love, and cuddling on the couch, which sounds cozy to some, sounds less than ideal to an Aries.

The Deal with Aries and Water Signs

It's common for fiery Aries to become downright obsessed with water signs-the sign they aren't supposed to go for. So why the attraction, and can it ever work?

Water signs (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces) offer Aries a reprieve from all their heat. This equally intense yet different element can feel so good, but usually the pleasure is fleeting and can be downright damaging if Aries stays immersed in it too long. After all, water puts out fire.

But it can work! The trick is that one partner cannot dominate the other. A little water on Aries' flames can actually create a delightfully steamy experience, and likewise, Aries keeps their water sign warm. The two can make each other even better by combining forces in intelligent ways. Just remember: Work together, do not compete!

How to Seduce an Aries

If you have your eye on an Aries, have a good plan in mind to capture their heart. Aries are all about options, and this captivating sign often has many admirers. It may take awhile for them to realize you're serious, and by the time they do, you may have already lost them. Here's how to make this quick and playful sign stand still long enough to fall for you:

  • Crank up your flirting game: This wildly flirtatious fire sign takes the initiative in romance, and they want you to do the same. Even if you've been involved for years, a steamy Snap can go a long way in ensuring you're still both on lock down.
  • Always be up for adventure: Don't get too comfortable on the couch. A restless sign, Aries always wants to explore. Discover fun and free things to do in your area, and get out of the house.
  • Talk yourself up: Aries are wildly addicted to confidence. Casually mentioning just how hot you look as you head to the car before a date isn't bragging, it's true-and it'll make an Aries want you even more. While Aries love to take the lead in everyday situations, they are beyond carnally attracted to confidence and they love letting a partner take the lead. Play a game of pool with an Aries, and make it your point to win.

How to Make Love to an Aries

Shamelessly flirty, sexy, and daring, Aries is one of the wildest signs in bed-and the best way to get them there is to focus on the body part ruled by Aries: the head.

During foreplay, an Aries man loves a gentle but firm kiss on his eyelids or forehead, or even a scalp massage. A female Aries loves having her hair played with, as well as being touched on the back of her neck and whispers in her ears.

Try handcuffs or blindfolds-sensory deprivation done right can feel super sensuous to Rams. And don't be shy. While missionary-style sex is sweet, an Aries wants you to up the ante. Impress them by saying exactly what you want, and they'll go wild. Skip the stuffy candlelit dinner and suggest an outdoor quickie.

If You Love an Aries Woman

Give her plenty of room. For her, just-because check-ins read as controlling, not sweet. And while she loves spending time with you, it's very important to her that she maintains her sense of self. If she's always spent the weekends mountain biking, don't expect her to be happy when you announce you've bought your own bike and would love to join her. Spending a few hours apart on Saturday will only make your time together more passionate.

How to Communicate With an Aries Woman

Keep things honest. She would much rather hear what's going on in your head than listen to platitudes about how great she is. An Aries woman always wants the best in everything and will never stop striving. Be a sounding board, offer (honest!) advice when asked, and don't expect her to choose between you and a project. An Aries woman has laser-like focus, and it's impossible and unfair to ask for her attention when she's working on a project she's passionate about. Know that, eventually, the attention will come back to you. If you're feeling ignored, tell her. Don't react passive-aggressively-that's one of her pet peeves.

If You Love an Aries Man

An Aries man may seem like he's unwilling to commit, but he actually believes in true love and the ideal relationship. He's also ultra-picky and committed to the thrill of the chase. Be patient with his dating process. It may take awhile for him to commit, but once he does, he's 100 percent invested. Don't wait around for him, though. Aries men love competition, so if you've just started dating, feel free to keep seeing other prospects. He'll want to show you that he's the best. When it comes to plans, he likes taking the lead. So let him take it occasionally, but flip the script and come up with your own itinerary. He's impressed when someone shows they can keep up with him and aren't afraid to go head-to-head with his naturally dominant personality.

How to Communicate With an Aries Man

Keep serious conversations IRL. Texts, which can be misread, can lead to a lot of drama when your partner is an Aries. And respect honesty. If you ask for an opinion, don't get angry if it contradicts what you hoped he would say. Of course, you should do the same for him. Aries respect honesty above all else, and they're especially turned off by hollow compliments or pats on the back that aren't well deserved.

Should You Marry an Aries?

Yes! An Aries will constantly keep you on your toes, but you'll always know exactly where you stand. No mind games here. And even though the dating period may have its ups and downs, especially when it comes to balancing independence with couple time, once an Aries choses to commit, they've chosen for life.

Signs That Your Ram Is Playing for Keeps

Independent Aries may seem like they're aloof, but these three subtle signs show that they see you taking a very important part in their lives:

  1. They invite you to meet the family. Even though Aries tend to love and be very close to their family of origin, they don't invite just anyone to a backyard BBQ. When they let you in, it's a sign that they see you as someone they could settle down with.
  2. They talk about their career plans. Ultra-ambitious, when an Aries asks your opinion about their career trajectory, it's a sign not only that they value your opinion, but that they're also thinking about how your own five-year plan will factor in.
  3. They invite you on a trip. Lie on the beach? Never. When an adventurous Aries invites you on vacation, it's a sign that they're sussing out whether you can keep up.

Aries Relationship Red Flags

It's usually hard to get a word in edgewise with talkative Aries, or to keep up with one when they're busy. They do first and rest later (if ever). However, if your Aries partner is suddenly spending all day vegging on the couch or playing video games... Houston, we have a problem! Unless they are insistent on you being cuddled up by their side, a couch-potato Ram is an unhappy-in-love Ram.

Aries isn't a good liar, so you'll either know exactly what the problem is, or they'll just walk away with a nasty a backward glance. It's harsh, yes, but it was fun while it lasted, wasn't it?

How Aries Deals With a Broken Heart

When Aries get dumped and brokenhearted, they might just go nuts! Like someone having a mid-life crisis, they might buy a boat and invite every single crazy partier they know for a week of indulgence, or they might just hook up with every single hottie that crosses their path.

Alternatively, Aries might do every single crazy or adventurous activity they used to fantasize about with their ex, just to prove that they don't need them for that Machu Picchu hike. To each their own, Aries.