Aquarius

The Aquarius Friendship

Even though Aquarians are great with groups of people, it takes a bit when it comes to making close friends. Deeply sensitive and cautious, closeness means vulnerability to an Aquarius, and this is not something to be taken lightly.

Aquarians' direct, no-nonsense approach in combination with their strong values can make it challenging to get to know the inner person. Yet those who are able to do so will discover a friendship that lasts through the years. An Aquarius will go the distance for a loved one to the point of self-sacrifice if necessary. They look for creativity, intellect, and honesty in their friends.

When it comes to family, the expectations are no less. Although dedicated to a sense of duty to relatives, the Aquarius isn't one for developing close bonds unless the same qualities they expect in their friendships are there.

Aquarius is the eleventh sign of the zodiac which is the natural zone of friendship and social activity. It also rules humanitarianism. Aquarius, you are a natural friend and this comes easily to you. Aquarius extends its hand in friendship and usually is impartial in its choice. But there are aspects to your motivation for engaging in friendship that extend beyond simply the idea of a good time and socialising.

One of you main motivations for befriending others is that you feel as if you can help them. You're an excellent counsellor and like to feel as if you're contributing something to the quality of their lives by offering them valuable insights into how they can improve themselves. If this is unsolicited, you may actually make a rod for your own back by assuming that everyone needs your help when in fact that's not the case. On this point it's a good idea to be a friend and simply listen for cues rather than jumping in impulsively, abruptly and offering advice.

Some of your friends consider you a little bit cold and unemotional and although that may be true to some extent it's this very trait that makes you more capable than most of being a good friend and simply listening without transposing your judgments or expectations on the friendship.

Your friends truly do appreciate this aspect of your personality. You also have a particular need to maintain control over your feelings and I'd simply suggest that whilst this is fine for the most part, don't be afraid to let your guard down occasionally especially if you're with people you can trust. You've got to appear human at times and this will help others relate to you much more.

For the most part your friendships will be based on intellectual pursuits. As an air sign you need to have a direct connection with the minds of others. It's through this mental connection that you are able to then relate to the emotional aspect of the friendship. You get bored easily therefore (and I'm not saying that this is intellectual snobbery on your part) but you want friends to have some level of experience that matches yours. You like history, philosophy, psychology and other interesting scientific or technological discussions. For a friend to be a true friend to you, they must at least have some ability to share ideas at this intellectual level.

As far as your standards in friendship are concerned you want loyalty, support and free thinking individuals to be part of your group. You need to feel as if you're supported in your own endeavours and hate judgements of any kind.