How to Get an Aquarius Man Back
So your relationship with an Aquarius man has come to an end and you want him back. You may not even know what really caused this breakup and the odds are that things came to an abrupt end. Luckily, astrology can offer you valuable insight that can help you figure out how to win him back and this time you’ll know how to make it last, or at least you’ll have a better idea of how to make it work.
I’ve had countless clients come to me in tears, absolutely distraught and confused because of losing their Aquarian boyfriend. It can be very frustrating to the other party, especially when the Aquarian in this scenario is the one who decided it was time to end the relationship.
Typically if an Aquarian has ended a relationship with you it is due to a feeling of restriction in the relationship. Aquarians don’t like to be in relationships where their partner is to needy, jealous or controlling. In fact, I’ve not met many Aquarians who will stay in this kind of a relationship.
Other reasons I’ve found that Aquarians put an end to romantic relationships is when their partner is too demanding of them. This causes the relationship to become burdensome and can be too much for the Aquarian to handle.
Also, losing the mental connection that was once there can lead to an Aquarius guy deciding to call it quits. Maintaining that cerebral connection with a partner is one of the most important elements of a relationship with one of these guys and once it is perceived as no longer being there, you’ll find that he disappears with it.
I’ve also had many clients who have been the one to end the relationship with an Aquarian partner just to realize that they made a mistake and that now they need to figure out a way back into his heart. Reasons some have ended it with an Aquarian include feeling that their Aquarian partner isn’t really “all in” when it comes to the relationship.
This usually stems from the air of aloofness that Aquarians give off. They can be emotionally cool and, for those partners who need more emotional stability and reassurance that they are “the one,” this can be a source of major frustrations and disappointment.
Aquarians are fiercely independent and this, too, can be an issue in romantic relationships. There are many more reasons why relationships with an Aquarian have come to an end, but you aren’t really here for that, now are you?
In this book we are going to focus on potential solutions and what you can do to rebuild the relationship that has unfortunately come to an end and make it into something that works, as well as makes the both of you happy.
The thing that can be the most confusing about breaking up with an Aquarian is that they will often want to remain friends. Unless, of course, you have done something that is just totally unforgivable in their book, but if that were the case you probably wouldn’t be reading this book right now.
It isn’t easy to remain in a friendship with someone you still have feelings for, but refusal to be friends could bring your interactions with your Aquarius man to an end completely. Now, it’s unlikely that your Aquarian ex will be inviting you out to movies and such after the breakup, that is not what I mean, but that you will be able to be “friends.” You’ll be able to be at the same functions without arguing and you won’t be in one of those situations where you divvy up your mutual friends into groups that you will hang out with and groups that he will hang out with.
Depending upon the nature of your breakup and the reasons behind it, getting back together with your Aquarius guy could be fairly simple or it could take quite awhile.
If you are stuck in a situation where you’ve proven yourself to be untrustworthy it will take much longer than if you just couldn’t find things you agreed on due to day to day stresses. That seems pretty obvious, though.
Aquarians aren’t super emotional creatures, as I’ve stated, so don’t expect to hear from friends that he is a mess, hasn’t eaten in days, or is binge watching 90’s movies and won’t get off the couch.
It will behoove you if you don’t get to this level of depression over the split, either. If you are determined to make things work again and you put in the time and effort, the odds are you’ll be able to make it happen, so cheer up!
The key thing to remember here is that the Aquarius guy cares deeply for his friends and that these bonds are hard to break. By remaining in a friendship with him you’ll have an in and be able to make your desires to reunite known when the time is right. Also, this shows him that you care about more than just the romance. Knowing that you actually care for him as a friend is important and will be imperative to patching things up.
If he is the one to decided to call it quits, your best plan of action, as hard as it may be, is just to let him go. Trying to force the issue or make him talk or forbidding him to leave you will only backfire. Holding on too tightly is the quickest way to ensure that he doesn’t return into your presence, so letting go is really the only thing you can do once the relationship reaches a point of ending.
The thing is, once you’ve accepted that he has left and if you don’t go chasing after him like a sick puppy, the odds are good that he will come back around and you can work to patch things up. This will not be without work, however, as there is no “easy fix” to a broken relationship.
Rebuilding What’s Been Lost
When it comes to repairing the damage done in a relationship with an Aquarius man, you have to take a fresh approach to everything.
Take some time to step back and look objectively at the entire situation and everything that led up to the breakup. The things that require fixing usually require a total overhaul of sorts. You can’t expect to just put a bandaid on a bullet wound and return to a happy place together, it just doesn’t work that way.
If you were too needy, demanding or clingy in the past you have to come to terms with why you felt the need to express yourself in that manner before you attempt to fix things. As with all relationships, if you are a part of the problem you’ve got to fix what’s not working within yourself before you try to fix the other person. In fact, telling him what he needs to change will have the opposite effect of what you’d like to happen, so look inward before you go any further in this.
Jealousy is another thing that Aquarians simply cannot stand. An Aquarian will never try to own you and cannot fathom why in the world you would ever try to own him.
If you have a tendency toward jealousy and this rears its ugly head, especially while trying to repair things, you can bet that a resolution will be hard to come by. It can be tough, but eliminating jealousy and possessive tendencies is imperative to the success of rebuilding a relationship with an Aquarian.
It will take time, none of this will be instant, however, there is hope at the end of the tunnel if you can get past these issues we’ve just discussed. Because an Aquarian will never turn their back on a friend, you will have future opportunities to discuss things with him, but avoid being pushy or you’ll push him right back out the door.
Understanding one another on a mental and spiritual level will help you both in deciding if this is even the right relationship for you. If things got to the point where you had to part ways, the odds are that the connection that once brought you together with your Aquarius man was lost somewhere in the mix.
By taking the time to listen to one another and to gain a better understanding of what the other person needs and desires in life you will lay the foundation to fix and possibly rebuild what you once had.
Don’t Get Caught up in The Past
Aquarians are progressive thinkers who very seldom will dwell on the past. They learn from their mistakes and move on, and this includes mistakes in relationships. If you get the chance to repair things with your Aquarian ex, it’s important to avoid getting caught up in what went down before. That is old news and you have to be able to let go and move on or he won’t be able to see creating a future with you.
The good thing here is that they do learn from mistakes made in the past. If you get to the point where you can each discuss and explain why the relationship didn’t work or what the problems and issues were, this will provide a reference for what he could learn from his past behavior or improve upon.
Of course, you can’t expect to tell an Aquarian to change who they are in order to make a relationship work-this will never happen. If there are legitimate things that can be learned from that he was doing to bring the relationship down, however, he will make an effort to improve upon these things and learn from past mistakes.
You must be able to learn from your past mistakes, as well. Remember that love is a two way street and what one partner expects of the other should equally be expected of themselves. Aquarians believe strongly in equality and will do their part to make sure that past mistakes are not repeated, but the same will definitely be expected of you.
In general, you have to be able and ready to move past all the pain or disappointment you’ve felt and enter a new era. Don’t look at this as fixing an old relationship, but more as starting a new one.
By nature, Aquarius is a sign that experiences a lot of reversals and sudden changes in life. You may feel like things will never turn around when suddenly, there he is at your door. If you spend all of your time obsessing over when things will change or when you’ll see him again you will only drive yourself mad. The hardest part of this for some of you will simply be letting go.
The Waiting Game
The thing about Aquarians is that they usually end up marrying or partnering up with someone who they have known for quite a while, but who they perhaps spent some time separated from.
This is usually a long-term friendship where, even after time has passed, you can pick right back up and it’s like you never stopped talking. A big part of why this works, I think, is because even though an Aquarian may date people outside of their circle of trusted friends, for the long haul they want stability and security just as much as you do. It is just easier to find this with someone who has, over time, proven themselves to be a trustworthy confidant.
That being said, it could be years before you get back to a point where the relationship can be reignited with your Aquarian. In the interim time you can build a strong, perhaps even indestructible, foundation of trust and friendship.
Sure, it’ll take time to even get to the point where you are close friends, depending on the nature of your breakup, but with patience it is possible to create something better than you could have ever had with your Aquarian man had you not gone through the initial separation.
Understanding the Nature of Aquarius
Breakups are never easy, but if you are truly dedicated to getting your Aquarius man back and you are realistic about what has to be done in order for this to happen, it’s possible. It will take more than just the things we’ve got over thus far, though. I mean, all of that is a good start and can work, but to make things work in terms of forever, you have to be able to understand the nature of Aquarius.
What things are most important to him and what makes a relationship truly rewarding for him to be in are just as important as what makes a relationship truly rewarding for you. The following are the top 5 things to remember when trying to rebuild a relationship with an Aquarian that’s been lost.
1.) On top of being fiercely independent, Aquarians are brilliant and eccentric. The Aquarius man needs to know that he can be himself around you and that you will respect his space and his personal freedom. Trust is the key to any relationship, but with one of these guys you’ve really got to have a lot of trust in him because he isn’t going to come home and tell you all about every facet of his life and what he’s been doing. He knows he hasn’t been up to anything nefarious and he expects that you’ll know that, too. Aquarians are loyal and stubborn. He will never cheat on you and accusations of such will really put a strain on the relationship.
2.) Being a fixed sign he can be difficult to handle sometimes due to his tendency to make up his mind and that be it. Aquarians are open minded, though, and if you have a good proposal and are knowledgeable on a topic he will be willing to hear you out and may possibly change his mind if you present a compelling enough argument. You cannot come at him with emotion based discussions, his extreme sense of logic will see right through that and you won’t have a leg to stand on, but if you can present to him a logical and well thought out presentation he will listen to what you’ve got to say.
3.) Aquarians are emotionally detached, yet they need to know that they have a home and a safe haven. Even if that safe haven isn’t an actual physical location, they need a sense of security just like you and me. Remember that when you think that your Aquarius man doesn’t really care or is being cold or aloof. He has warmth on the inside and if you can draw it out of him you’ll likely be the one who gives him a sense of stability and security.
4.) The Aquarius personality has a lot of love for everyone. He even has love for his enemies, so don’t be surprised if your Aquarian has a lot of friends, some of which will be other women. He may be a flirtatious type, especially considering that he is an Air sign. His social butterfly tendencies can come across to some as being overly flirty with who you perceive to be the wrong people. This is one of those instances where it becomes important to avoid jealousy, as well as communicate openly and honestly with him about how you feel. Remember that sometimes it’s not what you say but how you say it.
5.) He will not change for you and you shouldn’t expect for him to. He will never expect for you to change things about yourself to fit his mold of what you should be, he knows this is unfair and kind of disrespectful to you. Trying to mold him into something that he isn’t will only bring on feelings of being controlled, which will not fly. It’s a two way street-You respect him and he will respect you. As long as you can stick to this, you really couldn’t ask for a better partner, as far as finding someone who will embrace your personality without expecting you to change part of yourself.
Now that you have made it this far, I hope that I’ve been of some help to you in figuring out how to patch things up with your Aquarius man.
They certainly aren’t your typical lot and things can get rather intense, but if you are meant to be together and you can add joy and happiness to each other’s lives, the potential to make things work is definitely there.
It is important to consider why you want to reconcile with your Aquarian guy, and I say this simply because not everyone can find happiness with an Aquarian.
It can take a lot of work and effort to get back to where you can rebuild a relationship with one of these guys and it’s always a shame when you finally get there just to realize that the relationship still just won’t work for you.
Take the time to really go over in your mind, and perhaps write it out on paper, the reasons why you want to restart this relationship and what the pro’s and con’s are to your desires. If, after that, you’ve decided that this is truly what you want and need to do, then go for it.
Take all of this information and digest it. Consider what things you can change and what you can learn from. Know that there is not a magic cure to bring instant solutions to your situation, but that with work, understanding and a true sense of caring for one another that reconciliation is possible.
The main thing you have to remember with an Aquarius guy is how important our friendship is to him above the other parts of a relationship. If you can stay friends he will always be there when you need him to be. Good luck in your endeavors and with your relationship! I wish you all the best.
May the stars be on your side,
MJSEO TEAM
P.S. If you've got any questions or need some extra help with your specific situation, feel free to email me directly at contact@horoscopesocialnetwork.com and I'll be happy to help you out as soon as I grab some time.